Friday, 23 June 2017

FFS Friday - Does that make me crazy?

I'm 90% sure that I've totally lost my mind or am in the process of losing my mind. Kids do that to you. My Dad always used to tell me he wasn't suffering from insanity he was enjoying it. I can't say I'm enjoying it but it's almost definitely happening. A few weeks ago was the perfect example.

Tiger was away, it was the Saturday morning of a long weekend. Long weekends suck when you are solo parenting. I was in the shower. As usual, both boys were with me. Chai has gone back to cling factor ten and I have to be in his line of sight at all times. Fun.

Eljay totally over reacts whenever Chai touches him. Chai will touch him and Eljay will scream as if his arm has been chopped off.

So. I'm in the shower. Both boys are in the room. I'm trying to wake up, de-stress and perform my daily ablutions. Chai touches Eljay on the arm with one finger. Eljay screams, starts crying, chases Chai, grabs him around the waist and head-butts him in the back eight times. Yes, you read that right, eight times. He then lets Chai go and retreats to the other side of the room.

Chai looks at him, walks over and touches him on the arm again. Eljay screams, runs over, grabs him around the waist and head-butts him eight times. He lets him go and retreats to the other side of the room. By this time they are both screaming, crying and yelling. I've only just gotten into the shower. I contemplate getting out then for some crazy reason that even I don't understand, I stay in the shower. 

They continue with this routine the whole time I'm in the shower. I don't know whether to scream or cry so instead I face the wall laugh hysterically, I laugh so much I have tears running down my face. The whole time I'm laughing I'm wondering if I've lost my mind and think that I probably have. I don't know what it feels like to lose you mind but I'm pretty sure it feels like I did when I was in the shower. 

I got out, dried myself, calmed the boys down, fed them, had a discussion about how fighting doesn't make them feel good or happy and took them to the park. The boys fought the whole time. After I'd warned them for the fifth time I'd had enough so told them we were leaving. They both roared with tears the whole trip to the car. Naturally the car was at the other end of the playground so the entire playground watched as we walked screaming to the car. 

Both boys spent the whole trip home crying at the top of their lungs. I turned up the music as loud as I could and cried the whole way home too. Even with the music up full bore I could still hear them screaming. 

Parenting is tough. There are times I think it'll break me. In fact it has broken me, over and over again it breaks me, but like the phoenix I rise again to parent another day.  

Thursday, 22 June 2017

Final Lipstick and Lip Gloss Challenge Update

Well this is awkward. I tossed both of the glosses I'd planned to finish. Oops. I realised that I didn't like the Clinique gloss at all and the Australis gloss was so old that using it on my lips was gross. So they went in the bin. In future I'll make sure the products I'm using in a challenge are ones that I like and will use.

I did keep on using both of the lipsticks so at least I can report my progress on them!

I haven't finished either of them. To be frank, I got sick of using the same lipsticks all the time so started using other products. For my next challenge I'll select at least four lipsticks so I'm not just using the same two all the time, it's too boring. I was planning on tossing the Revlon lipstick but now that I've seen how close it is to empty I'm determined to finish it. 

I feel a bit funny about finishing my Chanel Boy. It's the lipstick that Tiger bought me the day I was being induced with Chai. It's six years old so definitely needs to be finished, but the sentimental side of me doesn't want to finish it. I'll definitely replace it when it's finished. 

So there you have it. Not a very good effort but some progress made.  

Wednesday, 21 June 2017

The Foundation Files: Bourjois Healthy Mix Foundation and Concealer

Healthy Mix foundation lovers will be thrilled to know that Bourjois have recently re-released the foundation in a new, improved formula. I wasn't a fan of the original formula, it just didn't work for me, but I love the new version.

I've used Healthy Mix almost daily for the last three weeks and am very happy with it. It gives medium coverage with one layer, lasts all day without fading and doesn't accentuate fine lines or wrinkles.I get the best application when I apply with a foundation sponge.

The shades are the same as they were in the old formula so you don't have to worry about trying to get a colour match. I use shade 52 in the foundation and light in the concealer.

In short, the new Healthy Mix foundation is beautiful. It gives lovely medium coverage that is matte without being drying and lasts all day without fading. 

Any concealer labelled Anti-Fatigue sounds good to me because I'm always tired! Never having used a Bourjois concealer I wasn't sure what to expect. I expect a lot from my concealers. I need them to hide dark circles, brighten up my under eye area, last all day and not sink in to fine lines. It's a big ask that the majority of concealers just aren't up to.

Health Mix Concealer is up there with the best concealers I've used. It gives opaque coverage, hides my dark circles, lasts all day and there is only minimal creasing. I get a little creasing after around six hours of wear, but that is easily fixed with a swipe of my finger or a brush.  

I'm very pleased with both the foundation and concealer, I'd definitely recommend trying them out.

Note: These products were provided for review. 

Monday, 19 June 2017

Shanghai Suzy Charlotte Rose Lipstick

It seems a bit mean blogging about a lipstick that you can't buy, but it's a special one so I'm going to.

On Mother's Day this year, She is Sarah Jane along with Shanghai Suzy released the beautiful Charlotte Rose lipstick. It was a limited edition with only 5000 lipsticks made. All proceeds went to Bears of Hope.

The lipstick was made to honour Charlotte Rose, the daughter of Sarah Jane who was born sleeping at 21 weeks. To help deal with her grief and to raise funds for Bears of Hope, the Charlotte Rose lipstick was created. The lipstick is also to honour all the babies who grew their wings too soon. 

Bears of Hope are an organisation who provide pregnancy and infant loss support. Their website contains a wealth of information on miscarriage, infant loss and bereavement. 

I sincerely hope that none of you ever need to use a resource like this. If you do, it can be a comfort to know that other people have had the same experience. When I had my first miscarriage it was the support of my girlfriends that got me through. They listened to me, shared their stories with me and helped me to deal with my grief.

I'm hoping that the Charlotte Rose lipstick will be re-released as it's a beautiful lipstick. It's exactly the same colour as my lips so I wear it like a lip balm. I'm kicking myself for not having bought two of them!

Did you buy a Charlotte Rose lipstick?

Sunday, 18 June 2017

Thoughts of the week

1. Bullet Journaling is still going well. I can see this being my new way of keeping my lists, diary, events and everything in the one place.

2. We've had some wonderfully cold weather lately, I love it.

3. I am so very grateful for the beautiful group of strong women who I call friends.

4. Just putting this out there. I need to raise a few million dollars very quickly to start a private, non religious, free range school that deals appropriately with special needs kids and doesn't expect kids to sit still in a classroom all day.

5. It's become rather apparent that I need a wardrobe overhaul. I'm sick of my daggy mum style, I need to start looking (and feeling) decent again.

Friday, 16 June 2017

FFS Friday - Witty

Sometimes (okay, nearly all of the time) I just can't help being sarcastic with the kids. I know they don't understand it but the temptation is so great that I can't resist.

They ask so many silly questions it's begging for some sarcasm. Here's a few examples from the last week.

We're at the park. We've just got out of the car and I'm waiting for Chai to close the door so I can lock the car.
Eljay: Can we go to the park?
Me: No, we're just going to stand here and look at the park, you can't play. 

When I'm putting yoghurt into cups for them.
Eljay: Can we have some yoghurt?
Me: No, I'm going to put it into the cups and put it in front of you, but you aren't allowed to eat it. 

Whilst waiting for dinner to cook. It's in the oven.
Chai: I'm hungry. Is dinner ready?
Me: Yes.
Chai: Can we have it?
Me: No. I'm waiting for you to tell me you're hungry a hundred times before I give you dinner, you've only told me twenty times so far. 

Standing outside looking at the rain.
Chai: Is it raining?
Me: No.
Chai: Yes it is. 
Me: It's not, someone just turned the hose on.

When we're laying in bed at 5am because Chai has woken us all up early for a change.
Chai: Is it dark?
Me: No, it's broad daylight.
Chai: No it's not, it's dark.
Me: Exactly. 

When they've asked for pizza for dinner, I've made pizza and it's on plates in front of them.
Eljay: Are we having pizza for dinner?
Me: No, we're having lasagne.
Eljay: But this is pizza.

At 5.30am, pre dawn.
Chai: Can we go to my cousins house?
Me: Sure, let's get in the car now, I'm sure they'll be awake.
Chai: Really?
Me: Yes, let's go.
Chai: Everyone is still asleep aren't they Mum?
Me: ....

Wednesday, 14 June 2017

May empties

The Body Shop Shea Butter hand cream 
I love these hand creams, they're one of my favourites. I love how hydrating these are and how quickly they absorb. The little size is perfect for my handbag. I buy them at christmas when they come in packs with the lip butters.

Skin Again Youth
I have a review of Youth and the cleanser coming up soon. The Skin Again products are lovely, as is the philosophy behind the company. I really enjoyed using this serum. Whilst it didn't product any amazing results it did keep my skin feeling smooth and soft. 

Milk Baby Nighty Night room spray
The boys loved this room spray. I'm not sure if it helped them sleep but it smelled nice.

Lush Ultra Blast toothpaste
Ultra Blast is mint and wasabi flavoured. It was okay but I wouldn't buy it again. It'd be great if Lush would release a mint flavour. I thought that the wasabi might make the toothpaste hot but it didn't, it just made it taste a little sour.

It Cosmetics Confidence in a Cream
I used this as a night cream and it was lovely. I can't say it did anything amazing for my skin but it was pleasant to use and very hydrating. 

Elektra magnesium cream
I massage the boys feet with magnesium cream every night. It helps them sleep better and they love the foot massage. After going through a heap of the Elektra magnesium creams, I've found a much cheaper alternative so will be using that instead. The Elektra creams are lovely, they have a range of different scents and the tube packaging is convenient.

Korres Cranberry Instant Lifting mask
This was nice to use but did nothing for my skin so I won't purchase it again.

It's the Bomb Sugar Scrub
These are my favourite body scrubs. I still love my coffee scrubs, but the sugar scrubs are a lot less messy and the scents are amazing. This one was Mimosa scented, not sure what scent I'll get next. Whatever scent I choose I know it'll be awesome. 

Alaffia deodorant
I've finally found a natural deodorant that doesn't irritate my pits and works in the harsh Aussie summer. Even better, it's under $7 (depending on the exchange rate). 

Schwartzkopf Live hair colour
Now that my favourite hair colour has been discontinued I'm on the hunt for a new colour. This one was on sale at Priceline and turned out quite well. I'll try it a few more times and then decide if I want to stick with it or try something different.  

The Jojoba Company Absolute Serum
Absolute Serum is a silent hero. It's one of those products that you don't realise is working until you stop using it. Having used about five bottles you'd think I'd know how amazing it is and yet I still forget. I finished it a few weeks ago and I've been wondering why my skin has been so crappy lately. It wasn't until I started listing my empties that I realised what the problem is. I'm off to get another bottle today. 

Inika primer
I loved every one of the Inika products in my trial pack, they're all definite repurchases. The trial pack is a great way to test out the range, I got at least a months use out of each item. If you are a fan of the Hourglass primer you'll love Inika's primer, They are very similar. Out of the two I prefer Inika as I find it more effective.

Andalous Luminous face mask
I picked this up with my last iHerb order. It's a single use face mask that's meant to leave you with glowing, luminous skin. It was pleasant to use, although it did tingle a little. When I removed it my skin looked fresh and healthy with no redness.

*Note: Skin Again Youth was sent to me for review. All other products I purchased myself.

Monday, 12 June 2017

Get a winter glow with the Divine Company

I rarely use fake tan for a couple of reasons. Firstly, I'm a total fake tan klutz, no matter how I try I can't get it right. The other reason is because I'm allergic to most of the fake tans I've tried. The first fake tan I found that I could use without irritation is Eco Tan and I've now discovered that I can also use The Divine Company Naturally Bronze.

Being fair skinned I don't want a deep, dark tan, I want to be a little darker but not so much that it looks unnatural. If you are after the same result, Naturally Bronze is what you're looking for. 

Naturally Bronze is certified organic, hydrating and doesn't have that awful fake tan scent, it smells lovely. When I apply this it looks and feels like a moisturiser. The tan develops over six to eight hours, so I apply at night and wake up with lovely, healthy looking skin. You can apply every day if you want a deeper tan, but if you are after a natural looking glow you'll only need to apply twice a week. 

In the interests of testing out how klutz proof this is (and because I knew my legs would be covered) decided to test out Naturally Bronze on one leg. I exfoliated with the Divine Company Body Scrub, haphazardly applied Naturally Bronze, rubbed it in a bit and then waited to see what would happen. To test things even further, I put my pj's and socks on straight away then jumped into bed. I was expecting to wake up with a streaky tan and no tan where my socks had rubbed, but check this out!

An even, streak free tan! How amazing is that! You can even see the mark where my socks were, but the tan didn't rub off! All I did was rub the product in, that's it. I didn't wait for it to dry, although it did absorb almost instantly, I just rubbed it in and then got dressed. So easy!

As this is so gentle it's suitable for use all over the body, even on the face. Now that I know how easy it is to use I'm going to give it a go on my face. I've never been brave enough to use fake tan on my face, so stay tuned to see how I go.

Enter code WINTERGLOW to get a free body scrub when you buy the fake tan from the Divine Company website

Note: These products were provided to me for review. The website link is not an affiliate link. 

Sunday, 11 June 2017

Thoughts of the week

1. The last few weeks have been a huge struggle. I've felt so very alone. There are times I feel I'm destined to walk my path alone. I'm okay with that, it just gets lonely sometimes.

2. What's with bloggers who block you when you unfollow them on Instagram? It seems so childish. It also quickly ensures that they never get your support again.

3. Did you know that flushing a toilet uses nine to twelve litres of water? It was news to me.

4. Why on earth would there be sweat running down dirty laundry? I don't understand. How? Why? It makes no sense to me.

5. The Candle Shack's Floral Delight candle is divine.

Friday, 9 June 2017

FFS Friday - One thing I don't ask my kids to do

I don't make my children share. 

I know we're all about teaching children to share, it's so important etc. But is it really? Adults don't share so why should children? They won't be expected to share when they grow up and yet we expect these small people who have very little control over their lives to share the one thing that they can have control over, their toys.

Not only do we expect them to share with their siblings and friends, we also expect them to share with strangers who they meet at the park, friends kids who they're meeting for the first time, kids at school etc. It doesn't make sense to me. 

Can you imagine if someone came to our house, walked into our bedroom and started using our things? We'd be so angry and yet we expect our children to be okay with that happening to them. Even my BFF who I've known for twenty years wouldn't go in to my room and go through my things. Likewise I don't use her things without asking.

I tell my boys that we share with the people we love. I also tell them that it's okay for them to have special toys that they don't want to share but it'd be nice if they have some toys that they do share. This works really well for us. They share the toys that aren't really precious to them and don't share their special toys.  

If they don't want to share something that's okay. 

I don't understand why we make sharing such a big deal. MIL got annoyed with me a few weeks ago when I told her I don't make the boys share. Even after I explained why I don't make them share she was still annoyed. Not my problem. 

Funny how people think they have the right to question other peoples parenting decisions. They wouldn't question or criticise their diet choices and yet they question their parenting. IMHO people should mind their own business.