Sunday, 19 May 2019

Thoughts of the week

1. I keep on being contacted on Instagram and via email from bikini and fitness companies asking me to be a brand ambassador. Seriously. Have they even looked at my Instagram feed or my blog? Clearly not.

2.The Tati vs James Charles drama has been fascinating to watch. It shows how fickle we are and how quickly we'll turn on people.

3. I've pulled out the winter doona's, put the flanelette sheets on and had the fire on every day this week. Winter is glorious.

4. Now that winter is here I've realised I need new boots. My last ones are very dead. Please send recs for warm, flat boots my way.

5. I also need new uggies. How anyone survives winter without uggies is beyond me.

Friday, 17 May 2019

FFS Friday - Situational Awareness

Regular readers will be aware of a few posts recently where I talk about various confrontations I've had with different men. It occurred to me that I should explain the thought process I go through before making the decision on whether it's safe to confront someone. I certainly don't recommend going around yelling at people if it's not safe. I only react to these situations if it's safe to do so. 

I learned this technique years ago, it's something I do automatically without thinking about it. Explaining it will probably make me sound totally paranoid but here goes. 

Always be aware of what's around you. So, for instance, if we go to the park I make sure I know who else is there. Are there any potential dangers, how many exits are there, what's the quickest way to get to our car, can I leave the carpark once I'm in the car?

On the day that man yelled at me at the park after other kids hurt his unsupervised child I knew it was safe to yell back at him for the following reasons: 
There were three other men close by, two of whom were watching what was happening. 
He couldn't get to me before I could get us all to the car. To get to me he would have had to walk around the playground as he was too big to fit between the poles. If he'd started coming towards us the kids and I would have squeezed between the poles and ran to our car.  
I can fight and he looked unfit so he would have been slower than me. 
He bought a child with him to confront me, therefore he wasn't brave so unlikely to try to physically harm me or the children.

If we'd been alone at the park with no-one else around, I might not have yelled at him as it wouldn't have been as safe.  

Being aware of your surroundings is very important and could mean the difference between being safe or being harmed.

A few weeks ago we were at the park and there was a man sitting on a bench staring at us. Initially it didn't bother me as there were two other cars there. The guy who was staring at us got into his car and moved it so that it was facing us, then sat in his car staring at us. 

I memorised his number plate and when both the other cars left we headed for our car as it was no longer safe to be at the park.
He'd parked in a way that he could easily block my exit which would have meant I was stuck in the car with no access to the road. 

There was no-one else around so if anything had happened there wouldn't have been any witnesses. His car was parked between the playground and our car so I got out my keys and my phone. I told the boys to get straight into the car and lock their doors. When we were going to the car I openly stared at the man so that he knew I was aware of him and so that he couldn't sneak up on us. 

I kept our car locked until we got to it, locked the doors as soon as we were inside and took off as quickly as possible. He didn't follow us.

Perhaps it was all innocent, but I didn't feel safe so I removed us from that situation. 

That's what situational awareness is all about. Being aware of your surroundings, knowing what risk factors there are and making sure you can get you and your loved ones out safely.

Tuesday, 14 May 2019

The Lip Oil Series: Physicians Formula Argan Wear Lip Oil Duo

Welcome to the fourth post in the Lip Oil Series. You can see my previous posts here, here and here.

Today I'm talking about the Physcians Formula Argan Wear Lip Oil Duo. I'm not sure if these are available in Australia, I haven't seen them here and purchased mine from iHerb. 

These are only sold as a duo which I think is silly because despite being different colours they both apply clear.  Physicians Formula say the pink shade provides a hint of colour but that's incorrect.

Both oils have a light coconut fragrance and flavour. The texture is glossy, hydrating and comfortable to wear. They work wonderfully over lipstick or lip liner and last around an hour before I need to reapply. When the oil has worn off my lips feel comfortable and soft.

I find this formula quite hydrating, I love the way it feels on my lips and the tube is really cute. It's not slick and oily like some lip oils, it lasts well on my lips and feels like a non sticky gloss.

Given the chance I'd happily repurchase, they're a lovely addition to my lip oil collection.

Ingredients: castor seed oil, octyldodecanol, dilinoleic acid/propanediol copolymer, ethylcellulose, argan kernel oil, flavour, sunflower seed oil, menthyl ethylamido oxalate, tocopheryl acetate, shea butter, phenoxyethanol.

Sunday, 12 May 2019

Thoughts of the week

1. Happy Mothers Day to all the beautiful Mums out there. We wouldn't be here without you xxx

2. If any of you are looking for a weighted blanket, head to Spotlight. They're currently selling queen sized Koo Elite weighted blanks for $56.

3. The royal baby is here! How sweet.

4. Both of these men are awesome! The man who kept him safe and the old man who decided to go for a joyride.

5. Victoria's Secret have an Australian website now! How did I not know this?

Friday, 10 May 2019

FFS Friday - Confused

We spend a lot of time at the park. At least two hours a day usually closer to four.

There are a few new families who've moved in so there's been lots of kids around for the boys to play with. Most of them are boys so it's been great. 

However, there are some truly awful kids there. It makes me wonder what happens in their homes. They're always at the park alone, never with a parent and they're there for hours.

One boy is 9 years old. Every second word he says is see you next Tuesday. FFS.

He's got the foulest mouth I've ever heard, worse than any adults I know. This kid clearly has problems which is sad. His behaviour is so bad that the boys don't want to go to the park in case he's there. 

Last Saturday Mum took the kids to the park and he abused her. 

The situation has been escalating over the last week and it came to a head on Monday afternoon when he punched Chai in the face. He claims they were play fighting.

I spoke to the kids, couldn't get much sense out of any of them so we left the park. The horror child and his siblings followed us. When they followed us into our street I started to get concerned so asked where they were going. HC (horror child) said that they were going home then spent the rest of the walk abusing me. 

By this time I'd had enough of him and I'd also figured out where he lived. I wasn't planning on doing anything about it until the kids had all calmed down. 

Chai was very upset so did the clever thing and instead of going home went straight to our friends house. The poor guy opened the door to Chai yelling out that we needed help and that there was trouble. 

We told him what had happened, the boys went inside and we went around to speak to the boys parents. 

Thankfully they were good. We had a discussion about the kids behaviour, agreed on some rules and hopefully nothing will happen again. If it does I'm hoping we can sort it out between us.

HC's Mum said that he's been having problems with two other kids at the park. Here's what I don't understand. He's always at the park on his own, never with a parent. If your kid is having issues with other kids at the park, why aren't you there? If you think your child is being bullied, why would you let it continue? Surely you'd try to stop the bullying and keep them safe?

Our job as parents is to protect our children, raise them as best we can and try to turn them into decent adults. We must advocate for them, fight for them when they can't fight for themselves and talk for them when they are unable to. 

We don't leave them to deal with bullies all alone!

Tuesday, 7 May 2019

Cracked Lip Heros

The last few weeks I've had awful cracked lips, they've been so painful. It got me thinking about the different lip balms that I use.

I have everyday lip balms, dry lip balm, flaking lip balms and cracked lip balms.

Today I'll show you the balms I pull out when my lips are cracked and sore.

I have two trusty balms that I've been using for years and a new one that I discovered a few weeks ago.

Carmex was the first lip balm I found that healed my cracked lips. When I was younger I had permanently cracked lips, I'd wake up every morning with blood on my teeth from my lips bleeding. I tried every lip balm available at the chemist and nothing worked. In desperation I asked the pharmacist for something that would help and he sold me Carmex. Back then Carmex was kept behind the counter (not sure why). 
I took it home, put it on and I've never looked back. The relief was instant and within a day my cracked lips had started to heal. It was the first time in years that I had healthy lips. 
Since that day I've always had several pots of Carmex around the house. It's a balm that I'll never be without.  

Upon application Carmex feels soothing and cooling. Within a day my lips are no longer sore and after a few days the cracks are healed. When my lips are in this condition I'll apply balm every half an hour to make sure that they always have a good coating of balm on them. 

I've used the click sticks and squeeze tubes but don't find them to be quite as effective as the original potted balm. I'll use them when I'm out and about just for convenience but my preference is always the balm pot.

Burt's Bees Beeswax
I didn't think I'd find anything that could equal my beloved Carmex until I discovered Burt's Bees. 

There is little difference in the two of them, they're both excellent. I find Carmex slightly more healing, so use Carmex exclusively the first day that my lips are cracked then I alternate between Carmex and Burt's Bees from the second day. I love the convenience of the tube and that it doesn't contain petrolatum.

Burt's Bees is matte, so ideal for wearing under lipstick. It makes a great primer, out of all the lip primers I've tried this is my favourite and also the cheapest.

Blistex Medicated Relief
This is new to me. I picked it up a few weeks ago because I wanted something small to fit in my jacket pocket. I wasn't sure it'd help because it contains sunscreen, but it's turned out to be a great balm.

Blistex Medicated Relief has the soothing feel that the other two balms have with a light texture that  works really well under other lip products. 
It needs to be applied lightly as it leaves a white cast when I use a heavy hand. 
I don't find this to be as soothing as Carmex, however it's great for when I'm out of the house due to the small size and slant tipped applicator. 

What are your cracked lip saviours? Do you use different balms for different lip issues?

Sunday, 5 May 2019

Thoughts of the week

1. Olio E Osso balm sticks are available at Mecca! I've been wanting to try them for ages.

2. They also have the tinted Dr Lipp balms.

3. Whilst we're talking of Mecca, there are so many great mothers day sets, I would like one of each please.

4. It seems I'm the only person in the world who hasn't watched Game of Thrones. I read the books years ago, however have had no desire to watch the series. Maybe I should.

5. Frank Bod have a new hair care range that will be released soon. It includes a hair scrub which I'll definitely be buying!

Friday, 3 May 2019

FFS Friday - I'm still on strike

I'm still on strike. 
It's actually working! And it's quite fun too. 
I never realised how satisfying being messy can be.
Last night I took off my clothes and left them on the floor. Didn't pick them up, didn't put them in the wash, just left them on the floor. It was great! I reckon I saved myself about a minute, which means I got to bed earlier and possibly got one minutes more sleep. So worth it. 

Random thought - Why isn't there a sarcasm font?

Anyhow, the strike has been a little successful. Last week I used the last toilet roll in our ensuite. I checked the basket and it was empty, so I left the empty toilet roll where it was and planted myself on the couch.

Next time Tiger needed to use the toilet I sat there waiting to see what would happen. You'll never guess what happened! He went and got plenty of toilet rolls, filled up the basket and put a new roll on the toilet roll holder without saying a word to me. Victory!

Last time I didn't fill up the basket and Tiger found it empty his exact words to me where "Did you realise you've got no more toilet rolls in the bathroom?"
Being the kind, patient, restrained person I am, I didn't take his head off, I simply replied "You mean WE have no toilet rolls. You use the toilet too. Yes, I did realise, I just didn't bother getting any more."

It really bugs me when Tiger talks about helping me around the house. He's not helping me, I am not the house slave, it is not my responsibility to keep the house tidy. 
After me growling at him every time he says he's helping me, he's now stopped. 
Everyone who lives in the house has a responsibility to maintain it. Everyone needs to keep it clean and tidy. Leaving the whole burden to one person isn't reasonable.

Plus, I refuse to raise men who don't know how to take care of themselves and expect a female to do it. My boys will be fully house trained when they are entrusted to the care of their chosen partner. 

Enough about the strike. It's time for episode 5,968,724 of crap that only happens when Tiger is away.

Firstly, I got a cold the day before he left. What's with that? For someone who never gets sick, I've been sick a lot lately. I had a cold last month too. 

Now for the funny part. The lock on our bedroom door has been a bit dodgy the last few days, it gets stuck and won't unlock, so I haven't been using it. 

Wednesday night it occurred to me that I need to let the boys know not to use the lock, because they automatically turn the lock when they want to leave the bedroom. They were asleep so I told myself I would tell them in the morning.

Thursday morning we got up and I was in the bathroom when Eljay says "Mummy, I can't get out the door". FFS.

Sure enough, he'd locked the door, the lock got stuck and we couldn't get out of the bedroom. FFS.

I spent five minutes wriggling with the lock to no avail. 
We were stuck. 
Undeterred I set about finding another way to get us out. I didn't have any oil I could spray onto the lock, nor did I have anything that I could use as a screwdriver to take the handle off.

The windows were all locked so we couldn't get out of them. 
I did consider sending one of the kids through the air-conditioning vent but quickly discarded that idea. 

We were stuck.

By this time it'd been about fifteen minutes. Chai realised what was happening and went straight into a panic attack. FFS.

So now I had a panicking child, no coffee and we were stuck in the bedroom. My neighbour and Dad both have keys so I knew we'd get out eventually. I messaged my neighbour to see if she was awake. She was.

Just as I was about to ask her to come rescue us, Chai had one last go at the door and it opened! Yay!

I calmed Chai down and we started our day. Fun times.  

The door lock is now well oiled and the boys have strict instructions not to lock the door.

Mrs B, if that offer of adoption still stands, I gratefully accept. I must warn you, I'm quite short tempered and very worn out though.

Tuesday, 30 April 2019

April Empties

April was a very slow month for empties. I didn't finish much at all. 

Glow Lab Coconut and Spiced Fig Hand Wash
Whenever I see Glow Lab on sale I pick up a few of their hand washes. They're gentle, non drying and the scent range is lovely. 

Gold Hydrogel Mask
I had this on for about a minute before I had to remove it due to the stinging. 

Tinderbox Deodorant
I've been having a lot of luck with natural deodorants lately, finding several bi-carb free options that work. The Tinderbox deodorant is one of them. I love that it's a roller ball, so much easier that cream deodorants that I have to smear on myself.
This isn't gym proof but it's fine for the cooler days. I don't think it'd be very effective in summer, but ideal for all the other seasons.

La Roche-Posay Anthelios SPF 50+
I'm on the fence about this sunscreen. It didn't have the awful chemical scent that the light version has but it still had a light chemical scent. 
It worked well and didn't irritate my skin or eyes. If I'd run out of my Invisible Zinc and this was on sale I'd buy it again, but I still prefer Invisible Zinc.

Omorovicza Intensive Hydralifting Cream
Whilst I enjoyed using this sample, it wasn't amazing. I expect miracles from my skin care, which is why I'm usually disappointed, haha.

Molton Brown Orange and Bergamot Bath and Shower Gel
I wouldn't normally choose a scent like this, however I really love it. It's such a refreshing morning scent.

Kora Organics Noni Glow Face Balm
Now this is a love. I used every last bit of my Noni Glow Face Balm, it's such a beautiful product. I use it as a night cream, all over my face, neck and lips. I'll happily repurchase this one, it's a delight to use. 

Nutrimetics Nutri-Rich Bathing Bar
Last year I won a lovely Nutrimetics pack from Kats Colourings  and this was part of the prize. 
I really loved this bathing bar, it's gentle, smells amazing and lasted ages (about three months).
It's been ages since I purchase Nutrimetics, but I'm tempted to place an order just to get another bathing bar.

Kora Organics Cream Cleanser
I've used a few of these now and it's a product I always enjoy. The cleanser is super gentle, dissolves makeup and doesn't leave my face feeling dry or tight. 
The only reason I won't repurchase is the price, I can't justify spending $40 on a cleanser when I can buy ones that are just as good for half the price. 

These are all tosses. I loved the Bourjois CC Cream however the sunscreen in it irritated my eyes.

The Flower Beauty palette arrived broken, so Chemist Warehouse sent me another one. 

The other products I just didn't love. They were all okay, but not nice enough that I'd use them enough to keep.

Sunday, 28 April 2019

Thoughts of the week

1. This week I've left my phone on silent and it's been wonderful. I hadn't realised how annoying it's constant beeping is. I have a smart watch so any important notifications come to my watch, everything else I ignore.

2. Half the time I ignore my watch too. In a way it's been an unintended digital detox and I've loved it. 

3. Chemist Warehouse have excellent customer service. I received a broken palette this week, so I phoned them and they were brilliant. They offered me the choice of a refund or replacement. I chose replacement and received a shipping notification a few hours later. How brilliant is that!

4. I so want to buy some of the Sarah Roza DB Cosmetics products, they look so pretty.

5. Priceline currently have a skincare gift bag available when you spend $69 on selected brands. I won't be getting it because I don't need any more skincare, if you do it's worth checking out.