Sunday, 17 February 2019

Thoughts of the week

1. The trial of the accused Claremont serial killer is commencing in July and I am fascinated. They've started preliminary hearings so I've been reading all I can on it. This is something that's haunted Western Australia for 20 years now.

2. The gall of some companies amazes me. I keep on getting an email from a company wanting to collaborate with me. They're offering 20% off their products in exchange for promoting them. Hah. I don't think so.  

3. You know when you bump into an ex and realise that you dodged a bullet? That happened yesterday. I saw a guy I dated for about 12 months. We split up because he was messed up and wouldn't get help. Clearly nothing has changed. He was with his partner, child and family. The whole time we were there he sat down whilst his partner ran around after their child. Didn't offer her his seat, didn't help with the child, just sat there. 
Tiger would never do that. If we're out, both of us are looking after the kids. If there is only one chair he gives it to me. He'd never sit down whilst I stood next to him.

4. The price we pay for cosmetics here is still ridiculous. The Lancome L'Absolu Gloss is $52 here, in the US it's $25. How do they justify that? 

5. To my great surprise Chai has loved the learning we've been doing lately. It's all play based so lots of fun and he's really enjoying it. I'm so pleased. 

Friday, 15 February 2019

FFS Friday - I'm raving I'm raving

You know when you make a change, hoping that it'll work but knowing that it won't? We did that. We f@#$ed up.

Chai has never been great at sleeping. Ever. The only time he sleeps well is in our bed. Tiger can't sleep with him, Chai wriggles and kicks too much when Tiger is in the bed. If it's just Chai and I he barely moves. Strange. 

For the last few years the boys have slept in a queen sized bed. When Tiger is away, they go to sleep in their bed then come into my bed during the night. When Tiger is home they start in their bed then when Chai comes into our bed Tiger gets into bed with Eljay. 

The boys sleeping has been a huge issue for Tiger. We've tried to get Chai to sleep in his own bed but it just stirs up his anxiety and stuffs up his sleep. Over the years we've had advice from several professionals but nothing works. Tiger gets very angry about not being able to sleep in his own bed, I think it's pointless being angry about something you can't change. In my opinion as long as we're all sleeping, I don't care where we sleep.

About four weeks ago we went looking for drawers for Chai and came home with a bunk bed. FFS. 
We still need drawers.

I knew it would be a bad move but Tiger has been so angry about the sleeping situation that I knew he needed to try something. Tiger thought that if the boys were in separate beds they'd sleep better because they weren't disturbing each other. 

The first night Chai was very anxious and didn't want to go to sleep. He eventually went to sleep and was in my bed by 10pm. Eljay slept until 4am in his bed then got in to bed with Tiger and went back to sleep. 

The second night Chai took ages to get to sleep again and was in my bed by 10pm. Eljay slept until 5am in his own bed.

The third night Eljay slept all night in his own bed. Success! For the rest of the time Tiger was home Eljay slept in his own bed all night. Chai didn't. To add to the fun, Tiger's now even angrier because he's now sleeping in a single bed! FFS.

Since we got the bunk beds Chai's anxiety has got steadily worse. He's taking ages to get to sleep, he's had to start taking Melatonin again and even with that he takes around an hour to get to sleep. He's extra clingy (he's sitting next to me touching me right now) and is super anxious about everything.

Most nights he's in my bed before 9pm. Last night he went to sleep at 8.40pm and by 10pm he'd come into my room five times. FFS.

Added to that, Eljay has stopped sleeping in his own bed and is waking up around midnight to come into my bed. FFS.

I'm now getting less sleep than I did when they were sleeping in a queen bed. Clever us gave the queen sized bed away, so we can't go back to sleeping in that, which means I'm stuck in non sleeping zombie mum mode for the foreseeable future. FFS. 

Through this I've realised something that I never wanted to know. 
I hate being touched when I'm on the toilet. Yep, Chai's anxiety is so bad that he tries to sit on my lap whilst I'm on the toilet. FFS.

He's seven! Seven year olds should not want to be in the room whilst their mum is on the toilet.

This whole situation is making me rage, my tolerance levels are very low and I desperately want a few hours alone. 

To all of you having a rough time, I see you, you're amazing, we've got this. 

Sunday, 10 February 2019

Thoughts of the week

1. Cousins are great. We've been spending more time with family lately and it's been wonderful. I've really loved seeing the boys bonding with their cousins. In 30 years time it'll be them watching their kids play with their cousins. What a beautiful though that is. 

2. I've been ruthlessly decluttering my lip products lately and it's very satisfying. I've come to realise a few things: 
I have held onto a lot of products that I don't love. 
Having so many products means I'm not using the products that I do love.
A lot of the products I don't love or enjoy using.
Some of the products are over seven years old. I don't want to be putting them on my mouth!

3. I've started swimming with the boys every day and they love it. I'm not overly fond of swimming, I've been scared of  water my whole life and I hate getting water on my face. I used to watch the boys swim but would never join them because I didn't want to get my hair wet and get splashed. A few weeks ago I decided that I didn't care about my hair getting wet and I explained to the boys that I hate being splashed and I won't swim if they do splash me. 
Now, they don't splash me (very often) and we happily spend at least an hour in the pool each day.

4. Weleda will soon be releasing new products in the Skin Food range. There will be a lip balm, a light moisturiser and a body butter. I can't wait!

5. I hope you're all having a beautiful day. 

Friday, 8 February 2019

FFS Friday - Ranting

It's Friday! Time for me to tell you what's been annoying me lately. I can't believe I haven't whinged about this before, because it's been annoying me for a very long time.

Spring onions. Yes, that's right, spring onions are pissing me off. Remember when parsley was the garnish of choice?
Every meal that was trying to be fancy had a parsley garnish. 90% of the time that fancy garnish ended up in the bin. Thankfully we've moved on from that and now we have spring onions instead. Every meal that's trying to be fancy has raw spring onions sprinkled on it. FFS.

I really, really don't like raw onion in any form. I've decided that spring onion as a garnish is worse than parsley. At least with parsley you could just put it to the side, trying to pick out all the tiny pieces of spring onion is a nightmare.

A few weeks ago I even found spring onion on a pizza. WTF? Pizza isn't fancy and it has no right to try to pretend to be fancy.

Truth be told, none of the meals that try to look fancy by wearing spring onion are actually fancy, they're not fooling anyone but themselves. 

Instead of convincing us they're fancy they're pissing people off. I did a poll at work years ago and didn't find one person in favour of the raw spring onion garnish. I couldn't even find anyone who liked raw spring onions. 

I'd love to know who decided to replace parsley with spring onion. Terrible idea. Very terrible. They should be ashamed of themselves.  

Monday, 4 February 2019

January Empties

Hello February! We survived the first month of 2019! 

This month makes six years that we've been living the FIFO life.

I've been in declutter mode for the last few months. I'm going through my clothes, make-up, skincare, the kids toys and anything else that comes into sight. It's fun and satisfying. I've still got a long way to go, but every little step makes a difference.



BX Earth Bodywash
Regular readers have probably had enough of seeing this in my empties. It's a staple in our house. We love that it's gentle, non drying, smells great and isn't expensive. 

Tarte Drink of H2O Hydrating Boost 
This is a gorgeous product for adding a light but hydrating layer in summer. I used it on hot days in place of moisturiser. Whilst it wouldn't be hydrating enough for winter it works very well in humid summer weather. 

Palmers Facial Cleansing Oil
I enjoyed using the Palmers cleansing oil, but it's not a favourite and I won't repurchase because I can't use it on my eyes. I like a cleansing oil that I can use all over, this one irritated my eyes so I won't buy it again.

Lush Rose Jam Shower Gel
I'm thrilled that Rose Jam is now permanent, I used to buy it and hoard the bottles when it was limited edition. This is one of my all time favourite scents, I have the fragrance spray too. If you like rose scents, this is worth checking out. 

Black Chicken Axilla Deodorant
All the hype about Axilla deodorant is right, it's a great product. If it came in a tube it'd be perfect. I use the sensitive version, there's a regular version for those that don't have sensitive pits. I love that this also comes in a small size, which I carry in my bag so I can reapply in summer. 

The Physic Garden Soothing Skin Salve 
A few months ago I decided to add a retinol product to my routine. Despite starting slowly and only using it once a week my skin was not happy. It took two months for the dryness to go away and the product that got my skin back to normal was my Soothing Skin Salve. I'd apply a layer every night and slowly but surely my skin got happy again. This is great for sensitive or irritated skin and something I'll always have in my collection. 

Baby Bum SPF 30 Sunscreen
Now that the weather has warmed up my empties posts will feature lots of sunscreens. Baby Bum is what we use on Eljay's face. Like me, he has sensitive skin and most sunscreens irritate him. Sun Bum is one of the few he can use. He prefers Baby Bum over the SPF 50 Sun Bum because he says it feels nicer on his face. I'd prefer that he use a SPF 50 sunscreen, but getting sunscreen on him is such a struggle that I compromise and let him wear this one on his face.

La Roche Posay Anthelios XL Ultra Light Fluid
I didn't mind this so bought the full sized bottle, which I've since given away to my SIL. Whilst it's a good sunscreen I really don't like the chemical smell. The scent does fade quickly but is noticeable for long enough to put me off.
That's a shame because it's quite a nice sunscreen. It's light, absorbs quickly and doesn't irritate. I do find that it's very dewy, to the point that if I don't powder over the top I look like a grease ball. Given the dewy finish I'm not sure how it'd work on someone with oily skin.

Skinfood NZ Exfoliating Scrub
I was sent a range of Skinfood NZ products to try and loved them all. It's a gorgeous range of natural products and most of them smell like coconut. Their exfoliating scrub is gorgeous. It has a creamy base with enough exfoliating particles to give a good scrub. The particles are round so don't scratch and irritate skin. I'll happily purchase this when I've gone through my current stash of exfoliants.

Simplicite Hydrating Floral Toning Lotion
I have no idea why I stopped using facial sprays, I've always loved them but for some reason I just stopped using them. Now that I'm using my facial sprays again, I have no idea why I stopped. The Simplicite facial spray was sent to me a while ago and it's one that I plan to purchase. I like the light, natural scent and how hydrated it makes my skin feel. 

Glow Lab Facial Serum
If I was younger this would be a great serum, however I need serums that do more than just hydrate. If you're after a hydrating serum, you'll probably love this. 

Neutrogena Ultra Sheer Fluid
Yet another sunscreen I can't use on my face. I used it on my chest and arms, it did the job.

Sun Bum Sunscreen
Eljay and I both use this, it's one of the few sunscreens that doesn't irritate us. I don't use it as my daily facial sunscreen due to the scent, I'll use it when we're swimming. If they made a fragrance free version I'd happily use it as my daily facial sunscreen.

Avene Eu Thermal Facial Water
I've started using facial sprays again, they make a big difference to my skins hydration levels. This is a good, non irritating one that's easy to find. 

Olay Daily Renewal Cream
Whilst I found Daily Renewal Cream pleasant to use, it isn't amazing and I won't purchase a full size. There's nothing wrong with it, it hydrates and kept my skin feeling soft, but I just didn't love it. 

Danearth Antioxidant Rich Moisturising Serum
You know a product is great when your skin goes to crap after you stop using it. That's what happened when I finished my precious Danearth serum. I didn't make it to the markets to get another bottle, so now I have to wait with rough, unhappy skin until the next markets. 
I purchased this after seeing the difference it made to my sisters skin. She was glowing and her dark spots were significantly lighter. It can be used as a moisturiser if you have oily skin, I use it underneath moisturiser as I have dry skin. 

The Body Shop Banana Body Butter
I'm so sad I finished my Banana Body Butter, it smelled so good. I love how quickly this absorbed, it was great for my scaly legs. What's with that? My legs aren't usually dry but this summer they've been terrible. Anyhow, I'd happily repurchase this but it's no longer available. Eljay loved it too and keeps on asking me for the banana moisturiser.  

Glow Lab Gel Cleanser
I'm a bit annoyed that I didn't pick up another one of these during the Priceline sale. It's a lovely, gentle cleanser. I use it as my second cleanse, having said that, it easily removes my make-up and doesn't irritate my eyes. I love that it has a pump top, all cleansers should have a pump.




Neutrogena Hydro Boost Hydrogel Mask
I've never used a two piece mask before, what a brilliant idea, they fit so much better! Hydro Boost is a great mask, as the name suggests, it's very hydrating so great for dry, parched skin. I didn't experience any irritation or redness, just soft, moisturised skin. 

Wrinkles Schminkles Chest and Decolletage Smoothing Kit
I've already replaced my Wrinkles Schminkles. It's one of those products that works instantly. When I don't use this I wake up with chinkles (chest wrinkles), when I use it, I wake up wrinkle free. Brilliant.

16 Brand Sage Tea Mask Pack
I had a reaction to this and had to take it off after about a minute. 

Palmers Zero Break Pre-Shampoo 
This was a Chemist Warehouse purchase which I got to qualify for free shipping. It's quite a nice product, you put it in before shampooing then wash it out. I got four uses out of the packet. It left my hair feeling very soft which was nice. My hair is in good condition so I won't repurchase again, however if my hair needed help I'll definitely buy it.

Tatcha Polished and The Deep Polish
I'm not sure what the difference is between these two, they seemed very similar to me. They were both nice to use, I managed to get the water to powder ratio right and my skin felt very smooth afterwards.
There are plenty of cheaper powder exfoliants, so I won't be purchasing either of these. 




This is the result of my pencil and red lip declutter, plus I've been going through my use it or lose it pile.

I tossed my Herbs and Heart Face Mud, it'd gone all hard and unusable. It was about ten months old, so I'm not sure why it went bad but I didn't really like it anyhow. Last year it was all over Instagram and everyone was raving about it, now I don't see or hear anything. I suspect that they were sending it out to influencers and now that's stopped no-one is talking about it. Funny how that happens. If a product was that great people would keep using it and keep talking about it. 

Lush Tooth Fairy had to go because it's started to irritate my gums. I've used two tubs of it before so I'm not sure why it started to irritate, but it was making my gums itchy and that's not a nice feeling. 

Sunday, 3 February 2019

Thoughts of the week

1. I'm surprised that retailers are still giving out plastic bags. They're banned in WA, yet I've been given one at JB Hi Fi, Lorna Jane and two take-away stores.

2. One month in to the year and I still haven't made any unnecessary purchases. I've even ordered from Adore Beauty and Mecca without getting anything I didn't need. I'm so pleased with myself.

3. Every time I see photos of children going back to school I feel sick. It just shows how deeply our experience with the WA school system affected me. I am so very grateful we are no longer part of that system. 

4. This week Napoelon Perdis went into voluntary administration. I'm amazed the brand has lasted this long.

5. Why is dealing with Telstra always so painful?

Friday, 1 February 2019

FFS Friday - I forgot!

Fark! I forgot that it was Friday! I remembered when we were on the way to the gym. FFS.

I've had no idea what day it is this week. Wednesday Tiger asked me what day it was and I had to check my phone. Sad.

It's been a bit of a blur lately, I don't like when life is crazy.

Tigers parents came to visit and MIL has lost a lot of weight. When I say a lot, I mean at least a clothing size, well over 5kg's, probably around 10kg's. I spoke to her about it and she's going to see a Dr.

It would be so much easier if they lived down here. They live in a crappy country town with a sub par hospital and very limited access to Dr's. Most of the Dr's take at least two weeks to get in to. If they lived here they'd have easy access to Dr's and a good hospital. But, they'll never move and that's their choice.

I don't like have ageing parents, it's not fun. The thought of a world without my Dad in it is awful. 
Mum I don't worry about cause I know she'll live to be over 100, so there's plenty of time left.

Enough sad talk.

I'd really like a job. I'd love to work, earn some money and feel like I was achieving something. I can't see how employment is possible at the moment, but I live in hope. Even working from home doesn't feel possible, I don't have spare time when Tiger is away and only being available to work two weeks out of the month isn't very helpful. 


It'll happen one day.

Have a beautiful weekend :)

Monday, 28 January 2019

Red lipstick declutter


It's no secret that my lipstick collection is out of control. I have way more lipsticks that I can use in this lifetime. For a while now I've wanted to declutter them, however it's such a daunting task that I sit down to start then get overwhelmed and just play with all my pretties.

I think I may have found a method that works for me. I'm doing mini declutters. I'll pick up two lipsticks that are a similar shade, wear them both for a day, then declutter the one that I don't love. If I don't love them both, then they both go.

Since this method is working so well I applied it to my entire red lipstick collection. Today I'm sharing the results with you.

I started by comparing my two favourite red lipsticks, Nars Velvet Matte in Dragon Girl and Rimmel Stay Matte in Fire Starter.

They are very similar and I love them both, however Dragon Girl is over eight years old and doesn't have the staying power that Fire Starter does. Dragon Girl went in the bin and Fire Starter stayed.

When I wear red lipstick I want it to be low maintenance. I want to put it on in the morning then not have to worry about it for the rest of the day.
 
After that it got much easier. 

I pulled out all my red lipsticks and put them into a pile.

Here's what I started with:
 33 red lipsticks, glosses and lip balms.

I put aside the ones that I knew I wanted to keep and put the rest in a pile to test.  


Products I knew I wanted to keep

I tried on all the ones in the not sure pile. If I loved them, they went in to the keep pile. If I wasn't sure, I sent a photo to Emma and would either keep or toss based on her advice.

Products to test

After that, I was left with this pile of lipsticks that I liked:



And this was the toss pile:



Next step was wearing each lipstick for a day to see how it wore.  

Once I'd done that, I pulled out all the similar colours, tested them again and chose which ones I preferred.


Similar shades

I wasn't sure if I wanted to keep the cream lipsticks, mainly because of the wear factor, but decided I'd keep some because I prefer cream lipsticks and they are good to wear over the top of matte lipstick as a touch up during the day.



After all that, here's what I ended up with:


The 11 winners
 Here's what I got rid of:

21 losers


There were a few products I got rid of that surprised me.
I really love Lipstick Queen Medievil and was going to keep it, but I realised that it's ancient. By ancient, I mean it's over eight years old. Gross.  
It's a real favourite, but very similar to Benefit Benebalm and there's no point having both. Mecca now sell a small size Medievil so I might buy that once I've used up my Benebalm.

I really wanted to keep the Hourglass No.28 lip oil because it was a limited edition and no longer available, but when I was honest with myself I accepted that I just don't like it. I like the oil, but it's very runny. Whilst that would be fine if it was clear, having the red tint means it moves all over my face and I look like a toddler who's put on their mums lipstick. I'll pick up the clear version one day.

None of the products I got rid of are bad, I like them all, but I either don't love them or the colour doesn't work for me or I prefer another product more. 

I still think 11 is too many however I intend to pan some of them this year. Ideally I'd like to have five red lip products. A lipstick, lip balm, lip oil, lip gloss and crayon. That's enough.


If you're wondering why the maths doesn't add up, I realised that one of the lipsticks was maroon not red, so I removed it from the pile. 

What's your favourite red lipstick?
Have you done a lipstick declutter?

Sunday, 27 January 2019

Thoughts of the week

1. I was sad to hear about the death of Brandon Truaxe, the founder of Deciem. He was a brilliant but troubled man. 

2. If you follow me on Instagram you'll know I've recently done a cull of my red lipsticks. I'm also culling the rest of my collection. Slowly but surely I'm going through them and getting rid of anything that I don't love. Surprisingly, I'm culling more than I'm keeping.

3. In what is the best news of the year THE POLLY WAFFLE IS COMING BACK!!!!!

4. I am so tempted to buy Fit Cover. I'm resisting because I have plenty of other foundations to use up. Once I've used them all, I'm buying Fit Cover.

5. Twenty seven days into this year and I have yet to make any unnecessary purchases. Go me.

Friday, 25 January 2019

FFS Friday - Stop, hammer time

I'm finding blogging difficult lately. I want to blog but I'm not inspired to talk about beauty products. I just want to talk. Problem is, I have no idea what I want to talk about. 

Last week I mentioned that I may have found someone to help with Chai. Finally.

Why does help have to be so expensive and difficult?
It's going to cost us around $125 per visit with subsidised visits. Once we've used all the subsidised visits it'll cost us around $150! 

Added to that, we have to drive to Perth for our appointments which adds fuel onto the bill. I'm grateful that we are in a position that we can find the money to pay for his treatment. We have to make a few sacrifices to afford it but that's okay.

Chai hates travelling. He can handle about half an hour then for the rest of the time he complains every few minutes. It's exhausting. We have a DVD player in the car but that doesn't keep him entertained enough to stop the complaints. Stopping for a break doesn't help either it just makes him worse when we get back in to the car.

I wish that there was someone down here who could help us, unfortunately there isn't. If this new psych can help it will be worth every painful car drive and every dollar we spend. We don't get started until the end of next month. The first visit I go on my own, so I'm using the next month to write down all the things that we're having trouble with. 

Watching my baby struggle is heart breaking. His funny tics are getting worse, his stutter is getting worse and his behaviour is getting worse. I so wish I knew how to help him. He's such a beautiful, outgoing and caring child. I want him to be happy and strong and confident. We'll get there. I won't stop until we do.