Friday, 27 November 2020

FFS Friday - Profound

Warning: This post contains a lot of profanity, if you don't like swearing please stop reading now.
I believe that the one thing in life I have control over is my attitude. I can choose to be positive or negative, happy or sad etc. I choose to be happy and positive.
To my horror Chai has started swearing. Nothing I do stops him. I'm sure he was sent to me to teach me to be non judgemental. In the past I would have thought a swearing child was a reflection of their parents, I now know this isn't true. 
He's also started having raging tantrums, which the paediatrician has told me are another form of meltdown. FML.
The tantrums are happening most days and they're awful, but at the same time they can be highly amusing because he is trying his best to swear but he gets it so very wrong.
Monday he was having a huge meltdown. He was really upset and I was trying to calm him down until he screamed at me "I'm sick of this shitting fuck, I won't do this fuck any more. I've done it every fuck day, I'm not doing this shitting fuck again fuck."
At this point I had to stop trying to calm him down and walk away so that he didn't see me laughing. It was just so funny. Instead of being upset I spent the rest of the day laughing about shitting fuck. It's my new favourite swear word.
Wednesday was another meltdown. He started swearing before we even got out of bed. Sigh. 
It's exhausting, but I'm not focusing on that. Instead I'll focus on the next pearler he came out with. Eljay annoyed him so he screamed at him "You're a horrible shit asshole!" 
It's not quite as good as shitting fuck but it's still funny.
Dealing with Chai is exhausting. It's the most difficult part of my life and I really have no idea how I can do better. At the moment all I can do is keep plodding along, be relieved that I get a break whilst he's at school and hope that one day life will get easier. 
In the meantime I'm going to do my best to ignore the shitting fuck negative and focus on the positive. 

Tuesday, 24 November 2020

Tatcha Pure and Glowing Trio first impressions

A little while ago I was chatting with one of my friends about skin care and she told me that she loves all of her skin care. I do not love mine. 
Not long after that discussion she very generously sent me the beautiful Tatcha Pure and Glowing Trio and I'm in love. 
I now understand what she means when she says she loves her skin care. Some products are just a total joy to use.
Firstly, look how beautiful they are! Clearly a lot of thought went into the packaging. That gold part on top of the moisturiser is a spoon! What a great idea. 

Whilst it's early days, I am loving using these beautiful Tatcha products. They're a joy to use and my skin feels very soft and smooth after I've used them. I'm really keen to pare down my skin care stash then explore more of the Tatcha range!

Sunday, 22 November 2020

Thoughts of the week

1. This week has been rough. Chai's been having a lot of meltdowns, they're so draining.
2. I'm doing an end of year email detox. As each email comes through I'm making sure to unsubscribe to the ones that I don't read and most of the beauty ones because they just make me want to spend money on things I don't need.
3. I've been seriously thinking of starting some sort of no buy. I don't need any more things. In the past buying myself treats was the only nice thing I could do for myself. Now the boys are at school I have time to do what I want so I don't need to spend money on things I don't need. I also thought of saving the money that I would have spent on unnecessary purchases so that when I do need something the money is available.
4. Instagram has switched things around again so now I can't find anything. I'll manage to reply to comments as soon as I find where they've gone.
5. It's great for everyone in Adelaide that their lock down finished early.

Saturday, 21 November 2020

Saturday Stories - Judgement

This Halloween, for the first time, we decided to go trick or treating with the boys. Chai loves dressing up and has always loved Halloween. 
In the past Tiger was always away so I'd take them to our local shopping centre. They did a great event where everyone would get dressed up, the kids would make a lolly bag then be given a map and they had to go to all the different shops to get lollies. I loved it because it was safe, indoors and only lasted an hour. The boys loved it because they got dressed up and got lots of lollies.
This year the event wasn't on due to covid.
We arranged for some friends to come over with their kids. They got to our house at 4.30pm and we were ready to go, however Tiger decided we'd have dinner first. We told him that we needed to go early but he knew best. 
By the time we got out of the house it was 7.30pm and most of the houses had run out of lollies. We had to drive and Chai was getting increasingly upset. We found a few houses that were still open, but most of them were finished. 
Our friends were following us in their car. After we'd unsuccessfully tried five different houses Chai had a meltdown. He was so upset, he'd been looking forward to trick or treating for months and it was a total fizzer. Instead of apologising properly, Tiger apologised totally inadequately once and then got angry when Chai didn't immediately calm down. 
The poor boy was devastated. So here we were driving around in the car, Chai was having a meltdown, Eljay was crying, Tiger was yelling at them and I was questioning my life choices. 
I managed to calm the boys down and we pulled up at one last house. The boys ran in, got their lollies, we said goodbye to our friends and off they went. 
By this time I was totally drained. I started thinking that they had absolutely no idea what had been going on whilst we were driving around. They probably though we had a great night. 
It just goes to show that you never really know what's going on in peoples lives. They were right there with us and yet had no idea the drama and stress that was occurring in our car. 
We just don't know what's going on behind the scenes for people. They might pretend that everything is okay and yet on the inside they ciould be on the verge of a meltdown. 
It's hardened my resolve not to judge. We're all doing the best that we can at any given time, and if sometimes our best isn't quite good enough that's totally okay. 
Be kind and gentle with others and yourself. You're equally deserving of the love and compassion that you show to others. 

Friday, 20 November 2020

FFS Friday - The car

Happy Friday beauties.
I really don't understand some people. 
Last week I went to a meeting at Chai's school. It was about a free program that they're running for some of the children to help them better understand and control their feelings. 
This course is normally only run privately and usually costs at least $800. 
Some of the parents were there to decide if they're going to allow their child to do the course. WTF?  
That makes no sense to me. It's free, it's run by the school during school hours and requires minimal input from the parent. In fact, if you wanted to you could do nothing and that would be okay, so why wouldn't you let your child do the course?
I just don't get it. 
I'll take all the help I can get. If it changes Chai's behaviour and makes things easier for us at home, count me in.
Anyhow, enough about strange people, I need to tell you about my car. 
I've had my car for nine years, I got it a month before I had Chai. It's a station wagon which was perfect for when the boys were little and I was carting around a pram, scooters, bikes etc.
A few months ago Tiger and I started talking about selling my car next year and using the money to pay off two credit cards. The plan was to get a cheap car for him to drive to work and I'd drive his car. I wasn't overly happy about this because he has a big 4wd which I really didn't want to drive around, however I figured paying off two credit cards was more important than my desire to keep my car. 
Tiger mentioned to his parents that we were thinking of selling my car next year and they decided they wanted to buy it. Not content to wait until next year they started putting a lot of pressure on Tiger to sell my car to them. Every time he spoke to them they'd mention buying my car. 
They both said that they didn't want to pressure us to sell it, however that's exactly what they were doing!  I started to get quite annoyed about the whole thing, I didn't want to sell my car at all and here they were putting pressure on Tiger to sell it. They even tried to guilt him into it by saying that their car wasn't reliable, it was too difficult for MIL to get the wheelchair and walker into it, etc. 

I told Tiger he should help them to find a good car however they just wanted mine. 

To my great annoyance Tiger gave in to the pressure and started looking for another car. it was right in the midst of when the boys were starting school and I just couldn't deal with the extra stress.
He found a cute little VW. It's a very cute, zippy little thing. After he'd purchased it, I decided it was going to be mine. Tiger wanted it for his work car, however since he'd sold my car it was only fair that I got to choose which car I wanted and I didn't want to drive his big 4wd, so I took the little car. 
The next weekend Tigers parents came down to pick up my car. MIL took one look at it, said that it's bigger than she realised and that she wasn't sure if she'd be able to drive it. FFS.
By that time it was way too late, we'd already purchased another car. Plus, I've had that car for nine years, it's not like she hasn't seen it hundreds of times. She took the car for a drive and still didn't think she could drive it, but that was just tough luck. 
It's been over four weeks now and MIL is still trying to figure out how to turn on the lights, wipers etc (even though the controls are in exactly the same place as they were on her old car), but she now loves the car so that's good.
I love my new car, it's zippy and fun and it makes me feel lighter. Sounds silly but this car is for me and I like that. My old car was for the kids, this car is for me.

(Note: at any time if I'd said no to selling my car, it wouldn't have been sold, I just like to rub it in to Tiger by saying that he sold my car.)

Tuesday, 17 November 2020

Hey Bud Australian Hemp Facial Moisturiser

Hemp is trending right now and I'm here for it. 
I've been using the Hey Bud Hemp Clay Mask for months now and really like it, so when they sent me their new moisturiser I was keen to try it.  
Isn't it pretty! The jar is glass and satisfyingly heavy. I'm planning to put a little succulent in it once I've finished the moisturiser, it'll look so cute. 

After four weeks of daily use I can happily say that this is a gorgeous moisturiser. It's light, hydrating, gentle and soothing. 

I use this as both a day and night cream. During the day I apply a light layer under my make-up, at night I mix it with face oil for an intense hydration boost.

 If you're looking for a moisturiser that is organic and cruelty free this is worth checking out. A 50gram pot costs $44.99.
Hey Bud products are vegan, gluten free, organic and cruelty free.
You can purchase from their website plus if you sign up for their newsletter you'll get 10% off your first order.

Sunday, 15 November 2020

Thoughts of the week

1. Chai's paed appointment on Friday went really well. The Paediatrician was lovely, he listened to me and was very observant. I'm hopeful that we're finally on the right track.
2. I'm really enjoying The Killers new album, especially the songs Caution and My God. They've been on repeat all week.
3. If you haven't tried the Pana Organic spreads you are missing out. They are amazing. They're also expensive, so wait until they're half price, then buy two of each flavour.
4. Despite not believing in Santa, the boys want to do Elf on the Shelf this year. So I bought two elves and have started already. Silly me. It's fun though, the boys can't figure out if the elves are magic or if we're doing it. They suspect it's us but they aren't quite sure. Watching them trying to decide if it's us or not is really funny.
5. I'm thinking of doing a low buy again.

Saturday, 14 November 2020

Saturday Stories - Perfectly Normal

I've been thinking about cellulite recently. I know, my brain is weird, just the way I like it.
Anyhow, cellulite. We're constantly bombarded with ads telling us that cellulite is not normal, it's something we should hate and eliminate. 
We don't see anyone on tv, Instagram, in magazines etc with cellulite, they're all airbrushed perfection. 
Here's the thing though. Over 90% of women have cellulite. Therefore cellulite is normal. If it's normal then we shouldn't hate it and we should not be shamed for having it, because it's normal. We don't shame men for having chest hair, it's normal for men to have chest hair. 
Cellulite is the same. It's normal for women to have cellulite. That doesn't make money though does it? So instead, we'll shame women and make them feel bad about their perfectly normal bodies so that a whole industry can make money off them.
I've had cellulite since I was in my early 20's. No matter what my weight (even medically anorexic when my Crohn's was bad), I still have cellulite, because cellulite is normal. 
A few weeks ago I did something I thought I'd never do. I bought bike shorts and short shorts to wear to the gym. I haven't worn them in the past because I have cellulite and spider veins that I usually cover up. But, it's getting warmer and I hate overheating at the gym. Last summer I eased up my workouts to deal with the heat but this year I don't want to do that, I want to get stronger. So, I got shorts and I'm going to rock those shorts even though my spider veins and cellulite will be on display.
Maybe by doing that I'll make another woman feel better about her perfectly normal, beautiful body. 
When I was buying the shorts the lady at Lorna Jane said to me (when I mentioned spider veins and cellulite) "So what, we all have those." She's right. We do. It's normal. 
It shouldn't even be called cellulite. I read a comment by a women who's Dad told her that cellulite is just a name that someone made up for the skin on women's legs. He's right. So instead of calling it cellulite from now on I'll just call it what it is, leg skin. 
You're all beautiful. Wear the shorts, they look amazing on you. 

Friday, 13 November 2020

FFS Friday - The things I haven't said

Hello beautiful people. I hope you are all well. It's time for a life update, it's a big one so I'll probably break it into two parts. 
When covid hit and we went into lockdown, Tiger lost his job. It's the first time in seven years that he's spent more than two weeks at home (other than when Eljay was born). 
It only took a few weeks for him to realise how difficult Chai's behaviour is and that we need help. I've been telling him for years that we need help, however he's always thought that the problem was a combination of discipline and him being away. He's always believed that once he comes home everything will be okay. 
He was wrong. Everything is not okay. It's far from okay. 
Two weeks in and Tiger declared that he couldn't homeschool the kids. 
Hah, welcome to my world buddy. I was not sympathetic.
Chai's behaviour got increasingly worse despite Tiger being home. 
Eventually we reached the point where we just couldn't cope any more. I was totally broken and knew something had to change, so we started thinking about sending the boys to school. Tiger called the school that we've been wanting to get them in to for years. We aren't in the zone so every time we've called in the past they've said they won't take the boys. This time they didn't say no, they asked us to put in an application. 
We put the application in and they asked us to meet with the principal and our homeschooling moderator. I was feeling very nervous about the boys going to school and not expecting them to be accepted.
We went to the meeting and it went amazingly well. The principal raised every concern I had and offered solutions that I thought I was going to have to fight for. I was still in denial about them going to school.
I thought if they were accepted they'd start next year or in term 4 of this year. 
We met with the principal on Thursday and Eljay started school the Wednesday afterwards. I was so not prepared for it. I was an absolute mess. I felt sick, I couldn't eat or sleep, it was awful. I was so worried that I would be walking back into the situation we had when I originally pulled the boys out of school. How wrong I was.
Both boys were very excited about starting school and couldn't wait to get there. Chai didn't start until the next week and we agreed that he'd do a gradual return to school. 
Eljay did really well for the first few days then decided he hated it and didn't want to go any more. That was really rough. He was so upset and I hated sending him to school upset. Every morning a teachers assistant and two of his friends would be waiting in the car park for us and they'd take him into class. The poor little man really struggled, there were tears every morning. 
I knew it was going to be a challenge for him because he's only spend two nights away from me his whole life. The only reason I kept on sending him is because every day when I picked him up he was happy. His teacher kept in touch with me and let me know that he was okay and he was happy once he'd got to school. The principal also kept an eye on him, so I knew that he was okay. 
He now loves school and is happy to go every day, however he still prefers being home with me. 
Chai returned to school exactly three years to the day that I originally pulled him out of school. How serendipitous is that!
We were expecting Chai's return to be a challenge but it hasn't been. He absolutely loves school. There haven't been any teething problems or issues, he's thriving. 
Next week will be his first full time week. It would have been this week however we've got his Paediatrician's appointment Friday. 
This school is amazing. They are so wonderful with the kids, they are kind, considerate and positive. It's everything that I wanted from a school and more. 
I thought that the schooling system was broken. It's not, it's just the school that the boys originally went to. 
Whilst I was a basket case when the boys first started, it was also a relief. I just couldn't cope with having Chai home any longer. Now I feel like I can breathe again. I have time to rest, to think and to do things that I want to do. 
I've started cleaning and decluttering the house which is really satisfying. When I was homeschooling I quickly realised that I couldn't do everything and something had to give, so the house has been a mess for years. I hate living in clutter. Slowly but surely I am getting rid of the clutter. I'm doing the main living areas first because that's what I see most. It gives me great satisfaction to see all the areas that are now clutter free.
The school thinks that Chai may have ASD so we're getting an assessment for that, we have his appointment this morning. I really hope we like the paed and get some answers.
As if that wasn't enough, whilst all this was going on Tiger decided to sell my car, just to add to the stress. Come back next week for that story.

Wednesday, 11 November 2020

Lanolips Fruity Babies

I've mentioned a few times that I haven't been impressed by any of the Christmas sets out this year, turns out that was a lie. I have found one that I love!
It's the gorgeous Lanolips Fruity Babies set. Look at how cute they are! For $14.95 you get three 3 gram tubes of 101 Superbalm in Coconutter, Minty and Strawberry.
Here's what they look like next to their full sized tubes. I love the mini sizes as they're great for carrying around and fit easily in my pocket. (Yes, I always have a lip balm in my pocket.)
Fruity Babies is available exclusively at Priceline. 

Sunday, 8 November 2020

Thoughts of the week

1. America has it's first female vice president. What a wonderful, historic day it is for women.
2. I am still totally under whelmed by all the christmas beauty sets. I'm not mad about this.
3. I've started watching The Home Edit on Netflix and I'm obsessed. Being in the midst of a huge declutter helps too as it's giving me inspiration. I want to organise all the things.
4. I also want to toss all the things as we have way too much clutter.
5. I hope you're all having a lovely weekend.

Friday, 6 November 2020

FFS Friday - Valuable

Happy Friday beautiful people.

I have good news. We got a paediatrician appointment for Chai! Next week! Finally.

So, you'd think I'd be happy about this. I am. What I'm not happy about is how we got the appointment.

I've been calling the Paediatricians office since the middle of September. I've told them that Chai is getting worse,we aren't coping and we really need help. I've called eight times. Each time I've got nowhere, they've told me that I'll hear something soon and just have to wait. 

Tuesday I got Tiger to call. I told him what to say, he called and was given an appointment straight away. Awesome. But here's what shits me. Why is it that when the Mum says she isn't coping nothing happens, yet when the Dad says we aren't coping people believe him?

The Mum says she isn't coping and it's her fault, she just can't handle being a Mum, or she needs to learn how to look after her child better, she doesn't discipline enough etc.

The Dad says he isn't coping and everyone jumps. Tiger didn't say anything that I hadn't already said and yet he was offered help and I wasn't.

Why are women undervalued so much? I'm willing to bet that most Mums cope with the kids better than the father does. In most cases Mums would be more in tune with the kids and more aware of what's going on with them, therefore their opinion should hold more weight than the Dads, however that's not how it works. 

 Also, why would a Mum lie and say she wasn't coping? It's a huge thing for a Mum to admit that she's not coping, not coping is generally seen as a weakness, so if a Mum says that she's not coping everyone should be jumping to help not judging. 

As a society we just don't value women and mothers. It's one of our major societal flaws. When we start valuing women and mothers the world will be a much better place.  

To all you beautiful women out there, never forget that despite what society tries to tell you, you matter, you are valuable and you are worthy.  

Have a great weekend beauties.

Tuesday, 3 November 2020

October Empties

It's empties time! How did you do this month? I did pretty well, I'm pleased with the amount of products I got through.

L'Occitane Herbae body lotion
Oh how I love this gorgeous scent. It's a fresh, green scent that's perfect for summer.
Natures Fruits Coconut and Lime Conditioner
This is what we use to get rid of nits. It's cheap and smells good. Stupid nits.
Panier Des Sens Rose Geranium Shower Gel
This was part of my birthday gift. I was a little disappointed as I expected it to have a lovely rose scent but it didn't, there was barely any scent at all.  

Nivea Indulgent Moisture Shower Gel
Tiger uses this, it doesn't irritate his sensitive skin and it's usually on sale so is super affordable. 

YSL Black Opium perfume
I don't usually wear heavy, oriental fragrances but this was quite nice. It's not the sort of perfume I'd buy, however Tiger really liked it so maybe I should. 
La Roche-Posay Thermal Spring Water
This is a must have in our house, especially in summer. I use it for extra hydration, as a cooling spray and on Chai's rashes when they're stinging. 
Laneige Water Bank Hydro Essence
This was lovely and hydrating. I'll probably buy it next winter when my skin is super dry and flaky.
Kopari Coconut Deodorant
My all time favourite natural deodorant, regular readers are probably over seeing this.
Ombra Daily Defense
Yet another sunscreen that irritates my eyes, so I use it on my neck, chest and arms. It's a lovely sunscreen and I can see why people rave about it. Once absorbed it's undetectable and doesn't leave you with that horrible greasy feeling at the end of the day. 
La Roche-Posay Pigment Serum
Despite being designed for sensitive skin, this really didn't work for me. I have no idea why I persisted with it, I should have given it away. It irritated my skin and made it dry, rough and horrible. 
Malin+Goetz Bergamot Deodorant
I had high hopes for this, it smells lovely but just doesn't work at all. It wasn't even hot when I was using it, so it'd be absolutely useless in summer. 
MooGoo Shea Sorbet
Oh how we love these little pots of magic. Shea Sorbet can be used all over the body and face. The little tubs are so cute and they smell good too. I mainly used it on Chai's rashes and as a lip balm.
Sampar Lavish Dream Cream
Lavish Dream Cream sounds so luxe.I found this to be nice but not amazing. I really do expect miracles from my skin care, it's probably why I'm disappointed so often. I would buy this again when I just want a decent quality moisturiser.
The Body Shop Vanilla Pumpkin Hand Cream
How good are The Body Shop hand creams? I love the vanilla pumpkin scent.
Go-To Zincredible
After reading all the reviews I was expecting to hate Zincredible, however it worked really well for my dry skin and I'd happily buy it again. 
La Roche-Posay Anthelios
Here's another product you're probably sick of hearing about. It's awesome. 
The Jojoba Company Jojoba
I dont' know how many bottles of Jojoba I've gone through. It's such a great product. I like to use it as a night cream in winter and why my skin needs extra hydration. 
Elizabeth Arden Eight Hour Cream Hand Cream
If you don't mind the scent of Eight Hour Cream then this is a lovely, rich hand cream. It saved my hands from the damage hand sanitiser was doing to them.  
Derma E Vitamin C Concentrated Serum
This was nice and I'd happily repurchase it. I got a few weeks use, it didn't irritate my skin, absorbed quickly and played well with my other skincare. 

Dermalogica Physical Defense

I've found another sunscreen that doesn't irritate my eyes! Typical that it'd be an expensive one. I really enjoyed this sunscreen, it's good for my sensitive skin and eyes. I'll consider buying a full size. 

These are my tosses. 

The Covergirl foundation just doesn't work for me anymore, the Flower Beauty lipstick is not my colour, the Stila blush, Danearth lip balm, EOS balm, MOR hand cream and Caudalie tinted moisturiser are all super old, the EOS crystal lip balm is crap.

I really wanted to love the Edible Beauty Luminous Angel Highlighting Creme but it's just too dark for me. I tried to make it work but I couldn't.

Sunday, 1 November 2020

Thoughts of the week

1. Happy first day of November.


2. This week I received another rejection letter for Chai. I've still been unable to get any help for him. Some days I feel like we'll never get the help we so desperately need.


3. Who's purchased any of the holiday gift sets? I've purchased nothing. I usually want lots, but this year nothing's tempting me.


4. When did we become so intolerant of people being human and making mistakes? We're so quick to judge people in the public eye, we expect them to be perfect. It's not very reasonable.


5. I'm buying myself a Bon Maxie Sidekick bag this evening. I can't wait to get it!

Friday, 30 October 2020

FFS Friday - Hosing around

Hello beautiful people. It's Friday! We survived another week. And what a week it's been.

Mrs B, I have a Tiger story for you. 

Honestly, I just don't understand how stupid he can be sometimes. He's highly intelligent and yet so impractical at times.

Last Sunday he was digging a hole in the garden as we got some new plants. There's this patch of really thick stalky type stuff (no idea what it's called). It's ugly and I have been trying to kill it for years but it won't die. 

So, Tiger is trying to dig through it then he gets the brilliant idea of using an axe and cutting through it. (This is a much better idea than what I wanted to do. I wanted to set it alight, however it's right at our bedroom window, so that's a really bad idea).

To his great surprise, guess what he also cut?

The reticulation.

Of course.

Funny thing was that he was surprised there was a reticulation hose in the garden. Really?!

Why is this a surprise? He knows the garden is reticulated, where else did he think the hose would be? I don't understand why this was a surprise to him.

He was genuinely surprised, he really didn't expect the reticulation hose to be there. Maybe he just didn't think?

Only minutes earlier we'd been adjusting the reticulation outlets right next to the hole he was digging, but clearly that wasn't enough to make him register that there would be reticulation where he was using the axe.

Even better, he hacked through the reticulation on both sides and didn't know he'd done it until he saw the hose in the bin. FFS.

I just don't understand how his brain works. Gardens are reticulated, so taking to them with an axe is usually going to result in the reticulation getting cut. It's a logical conclusion.

I'd planned to turn the retic back on this week, but now it has to wait until this weekend when he's fixed the damage he did. I'm going to get him to chop out the rest of that horrible grass stuff before he fixes the reticulation, because he'll probably ruin more of it whilst he's there.

Have a great weekend beautiful people. 

Tuesday, 27 October 2020

October favourites

It's been a long time since I did a favourites post. I have a few new to me products that I've been loving, so it's time to tell you all about them.

The Ere Perez Morings all-beauty creme was gifted to me and I'm so glad it was because it's beautiful and I'll never be without it again. I've been using it as both a moisturiser and on days when my skin is really dry I'm using it as a primer.

Stila's Magnum XXX Mascara is amazing. If it came in brown it'd be the perfect mascara. My lashes look so long and thick when I wear this, it's like I'm wearing falsies. I haven't tried wearing it to the gym, but on non gym days it lasts all day and doesn't smudge or give me panda eyes.

The Invisibobble Sprunchie has been my go to hair tie lately. I like the regular invisibobble however I find it gets tangled in my hair, so this is the perfect solution. Plus, the leopard print is cute. 

There's no way I would have purchased the Nikkia Joy Cosmetics Velvet Finishing Powder, it's just not the sort of product that I'd buy as it's aimed at oily skinned people, which I am not. Thankfully, it was sent to me and we've been in love ever since. This is another product that I'll never be without again, it makes my skin look flawless. 

One of my favourite purchases of this year is my OrbitKey. It's such a brilliant idea and I couldn't love it more. I'm ordering one for Tiger and one for my bff. 

Instead of taking up a pile of space in my bag, my keys are now compact enough that I can put them in one of the small side pockets which gives me a lot more room in my bag. Plus, I don't have to worry about them scratching my phone or breaking the lining of my bag.

What have you been loving lately?

Sunday, 25 October 2020

Thoughts of the week

 1. Who else is in spring cleaning mode? I'm having a big clean up, it feels so good. Lots of things have been going into the bin and to the Salvo's.


2. I've turned into a three coffee a day person and I'm not mad about it.


3. So far none of the christmas gift sets have tempted me. I'm very pleased about this.


4. The Nikkia Joy setting powder is amazing and you all need it.


5. You also all need an Orbitkey.


Saturday, 24 October 2020

Saturday Stories - What will you put up with?

In life people will treat you the way that you allow them to. 

They'll walk all over you if you let them. 

As I get older I find that I'm becoming more and more intolerant. I've never had much of a tolerance for poor treatment, however as I grow older I have a lot less patience. If someone isn't going to treat me the way I want to be treated I'm out of there. 

When I was younger I'd stick up for myself, I'd make sure that they knew the way they were behaving wasn't acceptable. I don't bother with that anymore, I just walk away. I can't even be bothered explaining myself, I just walk.  

Of course, there are times when it's not possible to just walk.

My first full time job when I was 16 I had an awful manager. He was a creep who was always trying to touch me and look up my skirt. I worked in a shoe store and we had to climb up a ladder to reach the shoes on the higher shelves, every time I was on the ladder he'd find a reason to come and talk to me.

You know how I dealt with him? Twice my foot accidentally slipped and I accidentally kicked him in the face.

That solved the ladder problem. 

As for him putting his arms around me, whenever he did that I'd elbow him. Didn't take long for him to get the message. 

I had another job where the boss was harassing me. It went on for quite a long period of time and there were days when I didn't want to go to work. I knew that if I said anything it'd ruin my career so I waited. I built up a portfolio of evidence to prove what was going on then the team and I (many of whom he was also harassing) made things unpleasant at work so he got another job.

The other job was temporary and he was intending to come back in three months. When he left I presented my file of evidence to the deputy manager. 

Sleaze bag wasn't allowed to come back and I got his job. Winning.

There are many ways to deal with awful people, it doesn't always have to be confrontational. 

People can be assholes. It's them, not you. Don't allow an awful person to dent your confidence or make you feel inferior. 


Friday, 23 October 2020

FFS Friday

You know when you become a parent and you suddenly find that you have to carry around a whole pile of stuff?

Gone are the days when you can carry a small handbag, you either carry a handbag and nappy bag or you have a large bag that fits everything.

After a while the kids get older but you still have to carry a largeish bag because kids need stuff. Toddlers need baby wipes, water, toys and a snack. Older kids need baby wipes, bandaids etc.

For the last few years I've felt like my handbag is weighing me down. Every time I've tried to downsize it hasn't worked, I've left something out and then needed it the next day.  I've just had to resign myself to being weighed down by my bag. There's probably some sort of metaphor in that too, life certainly has been weighing me down.

Finally, I've reached the stage where I can downsize. The boys can carry their own water, they can survive without snacks and anything else I can leave in the car. 

I've downsized my handbag, my purse and all the stuff that I used to cart around. I dowloaded Stocard and put all my rewards cards on so I don't need to carry them with me.

It feels so good. My shoulder isn't sore and I feel lighter, physically and mentally.  

If you follow me on Instagram you might have seen me complaining about St George Bank. If not, read on.

We've been working hard at paying off debt and it's been going really well. A few weeks ago we made our final payment on our St George credit card. After we made the payment we had to wait a few days for the payment to process before we could cancel the card. 

A week after the final payment Tiger rang up to cancel the card and was told that it has an outstanding balance over $7000!

Turns out someone had gone shopping with our card and St George hadn't thought that was unusual. Here's what I don't understand. We haven't used the card since March and we only used it for infrequent, large purchases.

How did St George think 57 transactions on Afterpay over an 8 day period was okay? In one day there were 22 transactions. I have no idea why their fraud department didn't figure out something was wrong! Talk about incompetent. 

As if that wasn't bad enough, instead of cancelling the account St George just cancelled that card, opened another account and arranged a new card to come out to us! Tiger had to call them twice to have the account closed.

Now they owe us money because we paid back more than we owed, but we can't get that until the next billing period shows the card in credit, even though the account is cancelled. How does that even make sense?

They've been so painful and difficult to deal with, we'll never bank with them again.

Other banks have suspended our accounts over once unusual transaction and called us to make sure it was us, yet St George let 57 transactions go through without taking any action.

Afterpay were no better. We emailed them to check if there was an account created in our name. We gave them all the details of the fraudulent transactions, they sent us a link to check our account transactions. Not sure how we're supposed to do that without an Afterpay account. FFS.



Tuesday, 20 October 2020

Nikkia Joy Cosmetics Velvet Finishing Powder and Pro Perfecting Sponge


Sometimes being a blogger has it's benefits as it means I'm introduced to products that I wouldn't have bought. Nikkia Joy products fit that category.

There's no way I would have purchased the Nikkia Joy Velvet Finishing Powder as it's main purpose is to control shine. Being dry skinned, shine is not something I have to deal with. I also don't usually purchase products that are created or endorsed by influencers.

Having said that, I'm so very glad I was sent these products, they are truly beautiful. 

The Velvet Finishing Powder is easily the best new product I've tried this year. It was love at first application and I don't go a day without wearing it.

What Velvet Finishing Powder so amazing? I'll tell you. It;

  • Sets my make-up and makes a noticeable difference to the lasting powder of my foundation
  • Blurs my fine lines and pores
  • Sets my concealer and prevents it creasing
  • Feels soothing and hydrating on my skin
  • Is super fine and feels amazing. 

I apply with either a powder brush or the Pro Perfecting Sponge. Both work equally well. I usually use a brush when I'm in a hurry and just want a light layer and the sponge when I have a little more time and need a more precise application. 

I wish I'd been able to capture the beauty of the Pro Perfecting Sponge in my photos. You can't tell but the colour is pink with a black sheen, it's super pretty. 

There are so many make-up sponges available now and they really vary in quality. This is one of the best I've tried and is the only sponge I've used since it arrived. 

I like that it has a super pointy, flat edge because it means I can easily get product on the sides of my nose and under my eyes. I've been using the sponge damp to apply my concealer and it's made such a huge difference. I get better coverage and a lot less creasing. 

When you wet the sponge it swells up to three times it's size. Surprisingly it doesn't take long to dry out and shrink back to size, which is great because it means there's less chance of it getting mouldy inside. 

 I've use the sponge to apply both cream and powder products and haven't had any issues. The products don't absorb into the sponge much, so I can use it to apply my cream products and then powders without any problems.  

This also means that cleaning is quick and easy. I usually wash mine every couple of days.

You can purchase the Velvet Finishing Powder  for $55 for a 20 gram pot and the Pro Perfecting Sponge for $20. 

Both products can be purchased from the Nikkia Joy Cosmetics website.

Sunday, 18 October 2020

Thoughts of the week

1. I was just looking at my blog stats. One of the main pages that refers people to my site is a porn site. WTF?

 2. It's been a while since I shared any pearls of wisdom from MIL. Here's one of her latest: "I have a friend who desperately wanted a baby but she couldn't fall pregnant because she'd seen too much animal cruelty."

Hmmmm, okay then.

3. I really want to learn to sew so that I can make my own clothes. I have a vague recollection of how to sew but it's been years since I gave it a go. I just want some nice, simple skirts and dresses. I'm sure I could make them for a lot cheaper than I can buy them.

4. Who's watching The Bachelorette? I've semi watched (watched whilst doing other things) a few episodes but I'm not that interested. I think I'm over the whole Bachelor/Bachelorette thing.

5. This week it was announced that Bradley Edwards isn't appealing his guilty sentence. I hope he's going to tell them where the body of Sarah Spiers is.  


Saturday, 17 October 2020

Saturday Stories

Have you ever thought about the things in life that weigh us down? Things that make us feel stuck and heavy.

It can be all sorts of things, both physical, mental and emotional. Life is really draining sometimes.

What do you do when you feel like that? Do you talk to people? Do you write, exercise, shop or something else?

I write. For me writing is cathartic. I write it down then forget about it. Once I've written about it it's gone. Often I'll write about something in an FFS Friday post and by the time the post is published I've erased the event from my mind. 

Some people find venting helps, but when does venting go too far? Tiger likes to vent but it gets to the point where I'm over hearing about it. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and move forward. Other things just aren't worth even getting upset over. 

As one of my favourite books says, "don't stress the small stuff (it's all small stuff)"

You know what's been weighing me down lately? My handbag. It just feels so full and heavy and I feel like it stops me doing things. Sounds crazy, but I feel so much better since I downsized my purse, keys and handbag, I feel lighter. 


Friday, 16 October 2020

FFS Friday - Simple

Hi beautiful people. It's Friday!

At the moment there's a bit fuss here in Western Australia about the prices of fruit and veggies going up because there aren't any backpackers here to help with the harvest and do the fruit and veggie picking.

Farmers use backpackers because they can pay them low wages and offer conditions which the backpackers accept but most others wouldn't. 

I think there's an easy solution, but the farmers won't like it. Pay people decent money and make the conditions and hours favourable so that people can do the job.

It seems obvious to me. School mums and stay at home mums would be perfect. I'm sure there are plenty of parents like me who'd love to work but can't because of their child care commitments.

So hire a nanny and make the working hours 9am to 2pm. Mums can either bring their kids with them or come to work after they've dropped the kids at school.

Easy. The produce would be picked, they'd have plenty of willing workers and everyone would be happy.

It seems to me like a lot of industries could do the same thing. After I had Chai I would have loved to go back to work but I wasn't willing to have Chai in day care all day. If my work had on site child care I would have gone back to work. Instead I had two years maternity leave and then took a voluntary redundancy.

Even now I'd love to work but it's just not possible. So many other parents are in the same situation as I am. So many employers are complaining that they can't get staff. 

Instead of expecting the employee to conform to the employers requirements, why don't the employers create an environment that allows people to work whilst also caring for their children?

Mums are great employees. They're brilliant at time management, they get things done quickly and efficiently, they can do at least three things at one, they don't have time to waste sitting around doing nothing, they're used to mess and chaos, they just want to get their work done and go home.

Instead of valuing parenthood we victimise it. We make stay at home mothers feel inferior, we criticise them when they prioritise their children and we don't value them at all. 

The mums who go to work are criticised for not putting their families first. Either way women can't win. 

Even in a tough job market there are plenty of jobs that businesses struggle to fill, so why not change things up a bit so that it's easier for people to work?

One day society will realise how amazing and valuable women are and the world will be a better place.

I'm trying to raise my boys to respect and value women. I want them to know that women are kick ass, amazing beings who are capable of anything, but I also want them to treat women with gentleness and respect. 

I have no idea if I'm getting it right but I'm trying my best, hopefully I'm successful.

Tuesday, 13 October 2020

Arbonne Super Calm and Inner Calm

For the last few months I've been trialling the Arbonne Super Calm range. 

It's a gorgeous range of products consisting of a cleansing milk, serum, moisturiser and my favourite product an inner calm powder.

I was always sceptical about supplements that claim to help stress, however in the past six months I've discovered that some of them really do work. 

I use the Inner Calm powder whenever I'm having a rough day and it really does help calm me down.  

Supercalm Vegan Cleansing Milk

I use the cleansing milk as my first cleanse. It's gentle on my skin, doesn't irritate my eyes and easily removes all my make-up, including mascara. 

I have to be careful what I use on my eyes, I find that a lot of cleansers sting or irritate my eyes, so I'm always happy when a cleanser is safe for my eyes. I love that it comes in a pump bottle. 

A 90ml bottle costs $47. 

Supercalm Skin Relief Serum

This serum has been my dry skin saviour over the last month. It's light, quickly absorbed and heaven for dry skin. After a week of use my dry flaky patches were gone and my skin was back to it's happy self. It usually takes me a few weeks to rescue my skin from it's ultra dry stage so I was thrilled that it only took a week.

You can purchase a 30ml bottle for $74. 

Supercalm Soothing Hydrator

I like to use this when my skin is looking red and irritated. It's hydrating but light at the same time (how do they do that?). Normally I use it over the top of the Skin Relife Serum, they work really well together. This also works well as a primer, it plays well under both foundation and BB cream.

A 50 gram pot costs $65.

I have to mention that I can't use these products when my skin is going through it's horrible super sensitive hayfever allergy phase. 

It's worth noting that when my skin is like this I can only use two specific LRP and Avene moisturisers, everything else irritates.

The problem is my skin not the product.

Innercalm is my super hero product. It contains Ashwagandha which helps with stress and Saffron Stigmas which supports a balanced mood. The flavour is a lovely peach green tea. I mix it into either hot or cold water and it makes a pleasant, relaxing drink.

30 serves cost $80, which is fairly standard for stress relief products.


Note: These products were provided to me for review.