Sunday 31 January 2021

Thoughts of the week

1. WA is ramping up its mandatory contact register and it's starting to feel a bit over the top to me. From Feb 12 we'll have to sign in when we go to the supermarket, department store, shopping centre, takeaway food stores and whole list of other places.
 
2. School goes back tomorrow. Chai is excited, Eljay is not. Eljay likes school but would prefer to be at home with me.
 
3. I still feel strange without the boys at home. I suppose it'll take time.
 
4. Mecca Beauty Loop Boxes are out!
 
5. Alicia Keys skincare range Soulcare is available at Cult Beauty. Now that's a celebrity brand I'd be tempted to try.

Saturday 30 January 2021

Saturday Stories

I was talking to a friend the other day. They're going through a really rough time and have been for a very long time, both in their personal and professional life. 
They asked "where's the joy?" At the time I didn't have an answer, but I think I do now. 
 
It's in the little moments. Those tiny moments of happiness that make us glad to be alive. 
It's looking at your child and feeling joy at how amazing they are. 
It's laughing with a friend. 
It's that first sip of your morning coffee (or tea). 
It's seeing a beautiful sunrise or sunset.
It's playing with your dog or cat. 
It's the smell of freshly mowed grass, sitting in front of a warm fire, reading a good book.
It's listening to a child laughing, rain on a summer day, a hug from a loved one.
 
Life is tough, often it's one struggle after the other but there are moments of joy. They might not be huge but they are there. 
Maybe focussing on those little moments is how we keep on going. 


Friday 29 January 2021

FFS Friday - Fighter

Hello beautiful people.
I've been a bit quiet online this week. Wednesday was D (diagnosis) Day. We got the diagnosis that we expected. I'm not sure if I want to go in to details yet because it's not my diagnosis to share. 
 
We told Chai yesterday and he's thrilled. He said it was a dream come true. He's so excited and happily telling everyone. Not the reaction I was expecting. 
He told one of my friends he's happy about the diagnosis because now he understands why he's a bit different. 
 
I'm so relieved that he's taken it well.
 
Even though I was expecting it, my head is still spinning. I've started researching the treatments and therapies that he'll need. I've also started the NDIS and Centrelink funding applications. 
 
I'm keeping a list on my phone of all the things that we'll need. In a way it's overwhelming but it's such a relief to have answers.
 
Now I know why it's been such a struggle. I know that it's not my parenting and that it's not just me being incapable of coping with the demands of motherhood.
 
I'm so glad I didn't stop fighting and pushing for answers. It's been five years since I started trying to get help. Five years of people telling me that I'm imagining it, his behaviour is normal and I just need to discipline him more. 
 
They were all wrong. It's not my parenting, he doesn't need discipline, I don't need to learn how to parent better. 
 
Can you imagine the damage I would have done if I'd listened to those people and disciplined him more? Disciplined my child for behaviours that he couldn't control and was often unaware of!
 
All those people who told me there was nothing wrong can go take a flying leap.
They were so very wrong. Luckily I didn't listen to them.
 
All those stupid people who told me to stop trying and not to label my child. Without a label you can't get help. You need the label. It opens doors and lets you access the help that you need for your child. 

When I think back to all the bad advice I've been given from teachers, psychologists, Dr's and paediatricians I feel sick. I'm so glad that I had the strength and courage to ignore them and do what felt right for me. 
Yes, they're professionals but they were all, every single one of them, wrong. 
Taking their advice could have caused lasting damage to Chai's mental health.
 
My message to everyone is this. Trust your instincts. You know if there is something going on for you or your child. Keep fighting, keep searching for answers and don't give up until you've got them. If you get advice that doesn't feel right for you, seek other options. Don't do anything that feels wrong.
 

Sunday 24 January 2021

Thoughts of the week

1. Thursday we went to Hamelin Bay and fed the manta rays. It was amazing. They come right up to the shore and eat out of your hand.
 
2. We live in such a gorgeous part of the world. After we'd seen the manta rays we went to another beach called Dead Follow and went climbing over the rocks. My ankle didn't appreciate it at all.
When I say my ankle didn't appreciate it, 3 days later it's still sore and swollen. Oops.
 
3. I'm still unsubscribing from the millions of email lists I seem to be on. It's crazy how many emails I get, many from places I never subscribed to. I do get a lot less email now, but still way more than I'd like. 
 
4. In WA it's the last week of the school holidays. Part of me is looking forward to the kids going back and part of me isn't. I'm going to spend the first week of school decluttering the house. It'll take me more than a week but I should make a good dent in it.
 
5. Last night a kind person walking past our house decided to damage the top of our letterbox. I'm quite pleased about this as I've disliked the letterbox for ages so now I've got a good reason to get a new one. 

Friday 22 January 2021

FFS Friday - Cooked

Hello Friday! I'm so happy to see you. 

This is our last week of semi normality. Next week Tiger starts a shut down so will be working 6 days a week. That'll be no fun for any of us. His transition into grumpy old man is in full swing and the shut down will only make it worse. 
 
Next Wednesday is diagnosis day. I'm calling it D day. Then again, we might not get a diagnosis. Either way, I hope we get some answers and find out how we can help Chai be a happy little boy. 
 
He's been struggling this week. We've all been struggling this week. I wish I knew how to fix things so that he's less volatile. Some of the things he's said have been so hurtful. I try really hard not to be hurt, but when those nasty words come from someone you love it's difficult not to get upset. 
 
There are times I feel like I'm in an abusive relationship with my son. That's not nice. 
 
I'm hoping that things will get easier when he's back at school. He's so excited to be getting back to school. 
 
Eljay's excited to go back to school too, which I'm really pleased about. I was worried that having all this time at home would make him not want to go back to school, but buying him a new lunch box was enough to get him excited about school. Hehe, he's so cute. 
 
Right, so what do I want to whinge about this week? Food. 
How annoying is it having to make dinner every night! Every single night. I'm so over it. Why do my family expect to eat every night. Surely they could just have fruit or toast or something? That's what a reasonable person would do. Nope, my family expect a meal every single night. 
 
Cooking when it's hot just shouldn't be allowed. There should be a rule that if it's over 30 degrees you don't have to cook, instead a food truck will deliver a healthy, nutritious meal to your house. That'd be much more reasonable. 
 
I've been keeping a food diary for my PT for the last few weeks, it's not good. I don't eat enough and I need more protein. I'm really not up for preparing food numerous times a day, I have better things to do. 
 
I have to hand in my food diary on Monday. I've already warned her that it's bad, but I'm still expecting to be given a thorough talking to about how bad it is. 
I'd happily live on shakes and coffee if I could.
 
That's one thing I've noticed, I'm really good at drinking coffee. I may forget food but I never forget my coffee. Heh.
 
I hope you all have a beautiful weekend. 

Tuesday 19 January 2021

Foaming Cleansers

For years now I've thought that I couldn't use foaming cleansers as they used to be aimed at oily skins. In the past foaming cleansers where quite harsh and used to irritate my skin. It wasn't till I was sent a few to review that I realised foaming cleansers have changed a lot over the last ten years.
 
I'm looking forward to trying other foaming cleansers when I've used up my current stash. 


These are the foaming cleansers I'm using at the moment. 

Glow Recipe is a gel cleanser but it foams up so I'm calling it a foaming cleanser. It's thick, foams well and easily removes my make-up and greasy sunscreen. I can't use it on my eyes as it stings them.
I like to use this after I've had a day in the sun and my face is coated in layers of greasy sunscreen as it dissolves the sunscreen almost instantly.

Logically, Skin - Care Cleansing Foam
As the name suggests, this is a very gentle cleanser. It's light, fluffy and very gentle on my skin. I can use it on my eyes without any irritation. 
I like to use this as my second or morning cleanse. It does remove make-up, however due to how light it is I prefer not to use it as a make-up remover.

Alya Skin Foaming Micellar Cleanser
Oh how I love this, it smells amazing. For a foaming cleanser it's quite thick. My make-up is easily removed as is sunscreen. I can use this all over, including my eyes, without any irritation.  I like to use this when my skin is feeling irritated as it's very soothing.

Iunik Centella Bubble Cleansing Foam
I was surprised at how much I like the Iunik cleanser, it's really lovely to use. I use it for my first cleanse as it removes greasy sunscreen and mascara easily. I'm not left with that horrible squeaky clean feeling, my skin feels soft and comfortable. 

The Logically, Skin and Iunik cleansers are available from Stylevana.
Alya Skin can be purchased from Priceline.
Glow Recipe is available at Mecca.

Stylevana has kindly given me a discount code to share with you all. Code INF10BG will give you 10 to 15% off the whole site excluding sale items. 
 
What's your favourite foaming cleanser?
 
Note: The Logically, Skin, Alya Skin and Iunik cleansers were provided to me for review.

Sunday 17 January 2021

Thoughts of the week

1. I've started following Jimmy Barnes' facebook page. He posts clips of himself and his family singing, it's brilliant.
 
2. This summer I've been educating the children on classic Aussie singers and old school rock, they're loving it. The old music is so much better than what's around now.
 
3. Awesome news. Juicy Tubes will be available in Australia in the middle of this year! Finally! I can't wait to get my hands on them again. I hope they've used the same formula.
 
4. Home schooling is becoming more popular in Australia, especially since COVID. I really hope that the Education Department looks at the increase of home schooling parents and has a good think about why that might be. The schooling system here really needs to change. It should not be a one size fits all system, it should be flexible so it suits the student, not the student having to fit the system.
 
5. Today we're setting up a garden for Eljay. I bought a big planter box and it's being filled up today. I'm not sure we'll plant any seeds yet as it's going to be really hot this week, so we might leave it until next week when it's a bit cooler.

Friday 15 January 2021

FFS Friday - Flying Leap

What a week it's been. I'm exhausted. Poor Chai has struggled this week, which means Eljay and I have also struggled. It hasn't been fun. 
 
Want to try a fun experiment? The next time someone asks how you are, tell them that you're not coping and see what they say. Most of the time they just change the subject. Helpful.
 
Anyhow, back to Chai. It's been a rough week. He's had too much excitement and not enough rest time. The trouble with rest time is that he doesn't want to rest, he wants to be constantly on the go. Getting him to rest quietly is almost impossible. 
 
We'll have his ASD test results soon. I'm expecting he'll get a diagnosis. It would explain a lot. I'm not sure what will change if he does get a diagnosis. Tiger and Chai don't want to medicate so things will probably stay the same as they are now. 
I don't love the idea of medication but I think it's worth considering. If he can feel less anxious his life would be totally different and that would be good for all of us. 

I've been reading about ASD in an effort to find out as much as I can. I don't really know how I feel at the moment, I just want the results so that I can take it from there. At the moment we're in limbo, waiting to see what happens. I don't like waiting, I like action. 
 
You know what's annoyed me this week? Another term that's commonly used. Anti-aging. When you think about it, that's a really stupid word. If you aren't aging, you're dead, so why aren't we pro-aging? I'm pro aging. I'll happily age. I don't understand our preoccupation with not looking older. It's just another money making scheme. We're being made to feel that getting older isn't a good thing just so that companies can make money. 
Those companies can take a flying leap. Aging is a good thing. Aging brings wisdom, experience and understanding. None of those are bad qualities.
 
It's time we stopped telling people that perfectly normal things are flaws that need to be changed. They don't. 
Don't believe the lies, you're perfect just as you are. 
 

Tuesday 12 January 2021

2020 Lip Balm Empties

 

Now that we've seen my sad pile of 2020 make-up empties, it's time to look at my lip balm empties. 
 
I'm quite pleased with this effort. I finished more than one a month and only two of them were minis. 
 
Fourteen finished lip balms and three of them were squeeze tubes. I always feel like squeeze tube balms take forever to finish.  
 
Here's a brief review of each balm.
 
Sol de Janeiro Brazilian Kiss
I really liked this and would happily buy it again. I would have loved for it to be flavoured as well as fragranced. The large tube means I only used it at home, it's way too big to carry around.
 
Bite Beauty Agave
As much as I love Bite Beauty products, I'm just not a fan of their Agave balm in the tube. It's thick, waxy and the tube breaks easily. I was happy to see the end of these tubes. I'd buy their other lip products any day, but will give the stick balms a miss. 
 
Dr Dennis Gross Hyaluronic Marine Collagen Lip Cushion
I absolutely loved this. I used it as part of my morning skin care routine. It made a noticeable difference to the lines around my lips. I'll purchase it again once I've got through a few of my other lip serums. 
 
Natralus Cocoa Paw Paw Lip Butter
Natralus has long been my favourite paw paw range, their products are lovely. I always have a tube or two of their paw paw balm on hand. If you can find the lip butters they're lovely. I'll repurchase this if I find it again. 
 
Ladybug Jane Vanilla Cupcake Luxury Lip Care
If I had to chose my top ten favourite lip balms Lady Bug Jane would be on the list. I purchased mine from iHerb, however they're no longer listed on the website so I'm not sure if I'll be able to get my hands on them again. If I find a stockist I'll buy one of each flavour! 

Fresh Sugar Advanced Lip Therapy
No matter how hard I try I just don't like the Fresh twist up lip balms. They're way too soft to be usable. I have one of their pots balms and it's lovely, but the twist up ones just don't work for me. I used this as a night time balm and will not repurchase.
 
Surya Brazil Chocolate and Mint Moisturising Lip Balm
This is another great brand that seems to have been discontinued. It's a shame because their products are gorgeous, especially this balm. It tastes like an after dinner mint and is super smooth and hydrating. 
 
Alpha-H Absolute Lip Perfector
If I'd paid $10 for my Absolute Lip Perfector I'd give it a different review, however it cost $32 so it gets a meh review. It wasn't a bad balm, it did the job and kept my lips hydrated, but for $32 I expect more. There are balms that work just as well and cost under $10. 
 
A Kiss From The Bees Lip Balm
I wish that this gorgeous balm was easier to find. It's from a local, Western Australian company and they make the most beautiful balms. This is my third or fourth tube and it definitely won't be my last. This balm is rich, creamy and super hydrating. If you find it anywhere, buy two.
 
EOS Lemon Twist
EOS balms are fun because of the cute packaging, however I don't find them to be that practical, they're just a bit too big to carry around. Despite that, they're great quality and I'll happily repurchase. I'd really like to try some of their hemp balms but they're so difficult to get hold of in Australia.
 
Kiss of a Bee Coffee Lip Balm
This is another great Aussie product. It's hand made in Cairns Queensland. I have several of these balms and love them, they're one of my favourites and I'll definitely repurchase. 
 
Susanne Kaufmann Lip Balm
Whilst I had high hopes, I didn't love my Susanne Kaufmann balm. It was lumpy and just not very pleasant to use. I thought I'd got a faulty one however Mecca assured me it was okay. If Susanne Kaufmann thinks that lumpy lip balms are okay then she is on a totally different page to me. IMO when you're paying $27 for a lip balm you do not expect it to be full of lumps. 
 
Crazy Rumors HibisKiss
Crazy Rumors have long been one of my favourite lip balm brands. I've loved their balms for years and always will. They truly can do no wrong. If you haven't tried Crazy Rumors yet, get onto it.  
 
What's your favourite lip balm?

Sunday 10 January 2021

Thoughts of the week

1. The first full week of the year is done. We've survived!
 
2. Who uses silicon chest pads to prevent wrinkles? I used Wrinkles Schminkles with great results but I'm wondering if there's anything better/cheaper out there?
 
3. I miss the days when beauty forums were active. They were so much fun. 
 
4. There's a nerf war going on around me. I may not survive, I expect to be hit in the head any second now. That's life with rowdy boys.
 
5. I'm embarking on a new nutrition and exercise plan soon, I can't wait to get started. I'm hoping I'll have more energy and not be constantly exhausted. Whilst the plan is being prepared I have to keep a food diary. One day in to keeping the diary and I've realised that I don't eat nearly as much protein as I need to.
 

Friday 8 January 2021

FFS Friday - Forgetful

I am in pain! I've been in pain for a week now and it's all my own fault. 
 
A few weeks before Christmas I was feeling overwhelmed so stopped doing everything and stayed at home as much as possible. It had the desired result and I felt much better, however current me is now regretting that choice.
When I stopped doing everything I stopped going to the gym. Three weeks later I've returned to the gym and I'm suffering. I did a leg workout on Friday and was still sore when leg day came around again the following Wednesday. 
 
Everything is sore, even my chest. A sensible person would have eased back into the gym. I am not a sensible person. I waltzed back in and did my normal workout assuming my usual "she'll be right mate" attitude. She is not right, she's not right at all, she's sore, very, very sore. 
Ah well, I only have myself to blame.
 
Enough whining. What's been getting my goat this week? Well, I'll tell you. 
Tiger's starting to confuse me in his old age. I'm just not understanding him. Maybe it's him, maybe it's me. I really don't know. For example, last week we had the following conversation:
 
Tiger: What's this? (holding up a recipe card).
Me: It's a protein ball recipe.
Tiger: For protein balls?
Me: Yes.
Tiger: What's it for?
Me: (very confused) A protein ball recipe.
Tiger: Yes, but what's with it?
Me: What do you mean?
Tiger: What's the deal with it?
Me (totally confused) It's a recipe to make protein balls.
Tiger: Yeah, but what's it for?
Me: I don't understand the question. It's a protein ball recipe, to make protein balls. 
Tiger: Yes, but what's the deal with it?
Me: I have no idea what you're talking about.  
Tiger: What's the recipe for?
At this point I just stopped answering him because I had no idea what he was on about. 

Can anyone shed any light? It makes no sense to me at all.

You know what else has been annoying me? Eljay's dentist. He had an appointment this week. 
They sent me a reminder at the start of the week. 
They rang me the day before his appointment.
They messaged another reminder the day before his appointment and I had to reply with a YES to confirm we'd be there even though I'd only spoken to them a few hours earlier.
At 9pm the same day they emailed me regarding the clinic COVID practises. In this one they asked that I not bring any other children with me. Too late. 
They could have mentioned that the three other times they contacted me, then I might have been able to arrange someone to look after Chai, waiting till 9pm the day before the appointment is too late.

Surely that's a bit over the top. One or even two reminders are fine but four is just a little extreme. 

How funny would it have been if I forgot to go? Hahaha.
I didn't forget.

That's all I have to complain about. 
Have a lovely weekend.

Wednesday 6 January 2021

What I've been trying to say

There's something I've been trying to say on here for a while but I just haven't quite got the words right. 
 
This week, Josh from The Minimalists said exactly what I've been trying to say.
Society, culture, and media have dragged you away from your nature.⁣
⁣You’ve been told to improve that which doesn’t need improvement.⁣
You’ve been convinced that you are lacking.⁣
You’ve been hypnotized into believing that you are incomplete.⁣
⁣These are lies told to exploit you.⁣
To sell you something.⁣

 
That's the message I've been trying to get across. You're all perfect, there's nothing wrong with you. It's just an illusion created to sell you something. Don't buy into the hype. You don't need to change, you're perfect just as you are. 
 
 
Here's the full message, which really resonates with me.
 
Minimalism is not interested in what you have.⁣
You can buy the “best” bag, bookcase, boots,⁣
but none of that will fill the void.⁣

And minimalism is not concerned with what you don’t have.⁣
“Look, ma—no things!”⁣
Because owning nothing doesn’t remove the void.⁣

Minimalism is not busy with doing something.⁣
Decluttering, organizing, and paring down don’t work⁣
unless you first find peace in doing without.⁣

And minimalism is not focused on becoming something—
job titles and achievements merely generate a thirst for more.⁣

Instead, a minimalist focuses on being—⁣
being someone who returns to the natural order,⁣
to the default state of thriving with less.⁣

This does not involve simplifying “tips” or “how-to” guides.⁣
It requires a deep understanding that you were born simple.⁣
Society, culture, and media have dragged you away from your nature.⁣

You’ve been told to improve that which doesn’t need improvement.⁣
You’ve been convinced that you are lacking.⁣
You’ve been hypnotized into believing that you are incomplete.⁣

These are lies told to exploit you.⁣
To sell you something.⁣

But the Truth won’t be found in any store.⁣
It is unearthed in less.⁣

The Truth awaits in the pause between stillness and awareness,⁣
in surrendering to the absence of wanting more.⁣
It cannot be conjured with the swipe of a credit card.⁣

Simplicity is not a task—⁣
minimalism is not a destination—⁣
it’s everything that remains when you⁣
let go of the attachment to every thing.⁣

Monday 4 January 2021

2020 Makeup Empties

 Now that 2020 is over it's time to look at my make-up empties for the year.

 
2020 really wasn't a year for finishing make-up. Staying home meant that I spent most of the year bare faced or with just my brows done. 
I wonder if it'll be the same this year. 
 
Whilst I got through a whole pile of skincare, I only finished 27 make-up items, 12 of which were travel sizes.
Here's my tally:
 
2 brow gels
3 brow pencils
4 foundations
7 mascaras
1 lip gloss
1 lipstick
1 tinted lip balm
3 primers
2 eye shadows
1 eye liner
1 lip liner
1 setting spray
 
I had fun trying different mascaras this year. I usually stick to the DB tubing mascaras as they don't run when I'm at the gym, however with the gym being closed for a while I started experimenting with other formulas and really enjoyed them. I now use regular mascara on non gym days and tubing mascara on gym days. That way I still get to try out all my mascara samples.
 
The Bare Minerals cream eye shadow is very missed. I love cream shadows but it's so difficult to find one that doesn't crease. If you know of any please let me know.
 
I've used Rimmel brow products for years but sadly they discontinued the pencils I loved. I'm now on the hunt for new brow products. Why is it so difficult to find the right ones? I think I'll just go back to my beloved Shu Uemura Hard Brow Pencil. That was my go to for years until I moved to the country and no longer had access to a Shu counter.
 
This year I'm going to try to finish more lipsticks. I do well with lip balms but lipstick take so long to finish. I'm trying to use up my favourite nude lipstick and I'll hopefully finish at least one other lipstick too. 

How did you go last year? Did you finish many make-up items?

Saturday 2 January 2021

No Buy?

The new year is here and so many people are starting no buys or low buys. I love reading all the posts and comments about no buys, panning, low buys etc. 
 
I've been on the no buy/low buy/panning wagon for years now and I've learned a few things that I thought I'd share today.
 
Going on a no buy doesn't work for me. 
It just makes me want to buy more so I either break the no buy or do a huge haul when it's over, which totally defeats the purpose of a no buy.
 
Low buys and 2 out 1 in work for me but they get boring.
 
Here's what works well for me.
 
I look at my whole collection. 
When it's all packed away I can't see what I have so when I run out of something I buy another one. Now, I get everything out and keep a tally so that when I use something I can check the list to see if there's anything to replace it with. This works really well with skincare. 
With make-up I know that I have way more than I need so don't need to look at my tally to know I don't need anything.

Stop trying to pan things that I don't love. 
I just don't see the point in forcing myself to use up something that I don't enjoy using. I used to feel bad about getting rid of products that weren't empty, but I've realised that it's better to pass them on to someone who they'll work for, instead of forcing myself to keep using them. 

Don't make impulse purchases
If there's something I'm thinking about buying I don't get it straight away. I'll think about it for at least a week. Usually by the time the week is over I've realised that I either don't need it or don't really want it. 

Stay away from the shops and unsubscribe to emails and social media.
New and limited edition products are very tempting to me, the hype around them really gets me convinced that I need the product. Truth is, I don't. I have enough, I don't need more. The limited edition products can usually be easily duplicated with permanent products, they just have pretty packaging. 
Unsubscribing from brand emails and social media means that I don't know about the new products so I'm not tempted. 
Going to the shops is the same. I use to habitually shop, now I only shop when I need something. 
 
How much do I use?
For the last few years I've been keeping a record of my make-up empties for the year. When I saw how long it took me to finish a product I became very hesitant to buy more. Last year I only finished 27 products, several of which were sample or travel sizes.
The year before I used around 50 products, which still isn't many. 
Knowing how many products I finish in a year makes me seriously consider each purchase.

Understand the why
Knowing my triggers is really helpful. I shop for two reasons. When I'm stressed and when I'm exhausted from looking after everyone else and want to do something nice for myself. 
Now that the boys are at school I am able to do other nice things for myself such as go out for breakfast or coffee, have lunch with a friend etc.
I still feel like shopping when I'm stressed, but that moment is short lived, so instead I message my friends who help talk me down.
 
Have a support group
Myself and two of my friends are supporting each other. We're trying not to buy things we don't need. We each have our own rules and that's okay. What helps is that we regularly check in with each other to see how we're doing and talk each other down when one of us wants to buy something we don't need. 
 
One more thing that has also helped me a lot is realising how much advertising and society has affected me. We're surrounded by obvious and not so obvious ads. I've realised that a lot of media is about making us feel inadequate/unattractive etc so that we'll buy something to feel better. 
 
The media is constantly shaming and criticising women and it's all about money. They try to make us feel bad about our perfectly normal bodies so that we'll buy something to fix the made up problem. 
 
Next time you're reading a magazine or online article about a woman, look at the language they use. 
Then go and read an article about a man and see what the difference is. 
 
You don't see many articles where a man is being shamed for his appearance or being accused of flaunting his body, it's only women we speak about in that way. The only way that will change is if we all stand up and demand change. Look what the Me Too movement did. 
 
We have the power. The movement has started. It's time for all of you beautiful people to love yourself just the way you are. 
I'll tell you a secret. Those flaws you think you have, they aren't flaws, they're perfectly normal. 
You're perfect exactly as you are.