Sunday, 7 March 2021

Thoughts of the week

1. Finally women are getting a voice. We're being heard, we're being believed and change is happening. It's about time.

2. My baby boy is 10 on Tuesday.

3. I had a little sample tube of a gorgeous cleanser that I really liked. I went to buy the full size, $59. No thank you. I'll stick to my Natio cleanser.

4. My Grandma turned 103 yesterday.

5. There's this thing going around on Facebook that says if you wear skinny jeans and part your hair in the middle you're old, and people are getting offended over it.
What I don't understand is why is being old offensive? Would they rather be dead? It's either get older or die and I know what I'd rather. 
Being old is not bad, it brings with it wisdom, experience and a whole load of other wonderful things. 
People get offended over the strangest things.

Friday, 5 March 2021

FFS Friday - Alien

I think Tiger is broken. Either that or he's been abducted by aliens and it's just his empty, soulless body that's here. 
Last Friday was the perfect example. He had the day off and we had to pick up something for his work. We did that then a few hours later his boss called and said we needed to go back to pick something else up.
We went to the place exactly the same way we had before and as we were going there we discussed that once we got in to the suburb we needed to turn left. 
We got in to the suburb 10 seconds later and Tiger turned right. 
I asked what he was doing and he had no idea. Instead of turning around at the first possible place he drove along for a while then turned at a spot where he couldn't turn around, so instead we had to go around the block. 
Simple enough. Or not. He's driving along, and instead of heading back to where we needed to be, he continued merrily driving along, missing all the turns, until I pointed out that he was still on the wrong road. 
Once again, he was surprised, but he turned around and we finally got to where we needed to be.  
How bizarre. 
He's only here in body but not in mind. It must have been aliens.  
I suppose it won't really make much difference, we'll just pretend that everything is normal. I'm sure the kids won't notice.
I'd say the aliens will return him soon, he'd be way too annoying for them to keep, especially if he uses the royal "we" on them.
He does that to me all the time, however every time he says we he means me. I refuse to let him take the credit for things I've done so I'm constantly correcting him. 
Last night was the perfect example. He got home and the pool pump was on, so he said "How long have we had the pool pump on?" to which I replied "We haven't had the pool pump on, I put it on at 4pm."
He also says we went he wants me to do something. Maybe he thinks I'm too silly to realise what he's up to. I'm not.
So he'll say "We really need to vacuum the floor" and I'll reply "Go aheah, you know where the vacuum is."
Nice try buddy, but it's not going to work. 
In other exciting news, yesterday I bought gum boots. It's the first pair I've had since I was a child. I got them after getting soaking wet feet at school drop off. That won't happen again because now I've got gum boots so I can splash in puddles to my hearts content. Fun times.
Hope you all have a beautiful weekend. 

Sunday, 28 February 2021

Thoughts of the week

1. So Kimye is over. How very sad for them and their family. It'd be so rough going through a divorce with the whole world watching.
2. Banana bread just out of the oven is one of life's greatest pleasures. It's the small things.
3. There is a new watermelon version of the Lanolips 101 ointment and I want it.
4. This week it was announced that Becca Cosmetics will be closing at the end of September. I don't think they'll be the last brand to close this year.
5. As I type this I'm sitting here listening to Chai verbally stimming. He's been at it for ten minutes so far. It makes me wonder what his life is going to be like as he gets older.

Friday, 26 February 2021

FFS Friday - Rough

It's Friday! We made it! I think we all deserve a medal for making it through the week. I'm sure the weeks are longer and tougher than they used to be.
I've always found motherhood to be very isolating, I spend so much time alone. Mostly I'm okay with it, but sometimes it's rough. Since Chai's diagnosis I've felt even more alone. I have some lovely supportive friends both in real life and online, but I'd like to know more people in my situation.

Lately the universe has been sending me support and I couldn't be happier.
Last Friday we met a lovely lady at the supermarket whose son goes to school with my boys. Her son also has ASD and ADHD. The boys got on really well, we had a great chat and swapped phone numbers. Awesome.
That evening I connected with an old friend on Facebook who told me he's just been diagnosed with ASD and ADHD and both his sons have ASD. More support. Yay.
Saturday we went to a birthday party for Eljay. The mothers there were lovely and one has already said she'd love to catch up with the kids for a play date. Slowly but surely I'm building a network.
It's so important to have support, but finding it isn't that easy. I'm very lucky to have friends who'll listen to me whinge (I'm looking at you Karen, Emma, Lisa and Jo).
This year I'm going to put more effort in to making and maintaining friendships. I haven't done very well with this in the past but I'm determined to get better. 
This week I've been trying to find the support services that Chai needs. It's not very easy. Every single place locally has a waiting list that's at least 4 months. Some places wouldn't even put us on a waiting list. 
I love living in the country but not having access to necessary services is really rough. If we lived in the city I'd be able to easily access everything that Chai needs. It really makes me consider moving but I so don't want to live in the city again. 
Down here we have friends and family, there's lot of nature and life is pleasant. The city isn't like that. 
We'll be waiting 4 to 6 months to get him the speech therapy that he needs. I haven't heard back from his psych, if she won't see him then we'll be waiting around 6 months for a new psych. 
I also have to start looking into high schools, even though he's not going to high school until 2023. There are only two high schools with ASD programs. One of them will only take him if he doesn't have learning disabilities. He does. So there's only one option when it comes to high school. The paed told me that it's quite likely he'll regress as a teenager so will need even more support than he does now. That's something to look forward to. 
The poor boy has had a rough time at school the last few days. He's got a very strong sense of justice and is always sticking up for the underdog. It usually gets him in trouble. A few days ago one of his friends was slapped so Chai pushed the perpetrator away from his friend. That earned him a lunchtime detention. They call it something fancy. Whilst the idea behind it is good, making an ADHD child miss out on their play time is a recipe for disaster. 
This is how it works. After they've eaten their lunch they go in to a room with a teacher, talk through what happened and then discuss how they could have handled it better. It's a great way to teach them what's socially acceptable but it just doesn't work for Chai. 
Due to him being rude to the detention teacher he got another detention the day after and he has no idea why. 
In his mind he was just trying to explain himself, but in fact he was being very rude. I'm sure he was being rude because he does the same thing at home every single day, but he truly doesn't understand why it's rude.
This just shows how much he needs a speech pathologist. Thanks four to six month waiting list. 
Poor kid, I really feel for him. I spoke to his teacher and she made sure that he got the chance to get his energy out, but it still seems unfair that he's being given detention when he has no idea what he did wrong.
I suppose it's better for him to learn what's acceptable in a safe environment like school. Even though, it's still tough. My poor baby.
It's a long weekend here in WA. Tiger will be working the whole time though. I can't wait till this shut down is over. 
That's all I've got for today. Have a wonderful weekend beautiful people. 

Tuesday, 23 February 2021

My MAC lipstick collection

Last week I was chatting with the gorgeous Lauren (aka the girl who loves cosmetics) about our favourite MAC lipsticks. Lauren has a gorgeous collection. Since we have similar colouring, I took some pictures of my collection to show her. I'm sure there are some of you who might also be interested, so here's my current collection.
I had to get rid of my beloved Bare Venus. After many years it's finally gone off. I've kept it so that I can get the shade duplicated as it's the only nude lipstick that doesn't make me look like a cadaver. 
Aren't they cute? The little shopping trolley is from the kids stationery section of Kmart. 

Front row: Pink Plaid, Chatterbox, Midimauve.
Middle row: Ripened, Brave, Lovelorn, Pure Nonchalance, Syrup.
Back row: Mehr, Please Me, Plumful, Creme Cup, Up The Amp, Fast Play.


Top to bottom: Pink Plaid, Chatterbox, Midimauve.

Top to bottom: Ripened, Brave, Lovelorn, Pure Nonchalance, Syrup.

Top to bottom: Mehr, Please Me, Plumful, Creme Cup, Up The Amp, Fast Play.
Out of the whole collection my favourites are Syrup, Ripened and Pure Nonchalance. They're all cool pinky lavender shades that look very natural on me. Syrup is one of the few lipsticks that I've used up and repurchased, this is my third tube.
The Powder Kiss formula is one of my all time favourite lipstick formulas. It's light, balmy and matte. Those three things don't sound like they go together, but MAC have performed some sort of magic.. If you like the Bobbi Brown Crushed formula then you'll love the Powder Kiss lipsticks.
I'd really like to get several more shades however the last thing I need is more lipstick and I'm trying to go cruelty free, so I'm staying strong.  

Have you tried the Powder Kiss lipsticks? What's your favourite lipstick formula?

Sunday, 21 February 2021

Thoughts of the week

1. Facebook spat the dummy on Thursday. How childish. I wonder how long it'll be until they backtrack. Hopefully it won't be long until someone creates a decent alternative and we can all give FB the flick.
2. Tiger has been working six days per week for the last four weeks and I'm not here for it at all. He's got another four weeks until he's back to his normal hours. It's quite unlikely that I will survive this unscathed.
3. My motivation still has not returned. I have so much to do and no desire to do it.
4. Clinique have a new serum foundation that looks really interesting. I'm not going to buy it because I don't need any foundation, but if you try it please let me know what it's like.
5. MAC's Powder Kiss lipstick formulation is amazing. It would have to be one of my all time favourite lipstick formulas. It's up there with Shanghai Suzy and Bobbi Brown.

Friday, 19 February 2021

FFS Friday - Coffee

Hello Friday you beautiful thing. I hope you've all had a good week. Victoria, you're out of lockdown! Yay!
Now that Chai has a diagnosis I've been researching the therapies he'll need and the supports available to him. You know what's struck me? Everything is about teaching him to fit in with society, but I haven't seen anything about teaching society to deal with him. 
It's all about making the neurodiverse person adapt to everyone else. Considering that there are a large number of neurodiverse people, why isn't there any education teaching people how to interact with those who are neurodiverse? Surely that'd be the right thing to do.
I haven't even been able to find anything to help me learn how to deal with him. I'm sure there's something out there, I just haven't discovered it yet. 
As a society we should be able to cope with all types of people. I'd like to know how to deal with someone who's neurodiverse, so why isn't there some way I can learn? It should be taught in schools so that our next generation see neurodiverse people as being the same as anyone else. 
I'm also being told how awful the NDIS is to deal with. Parents and therapists have told me it's a nightmare, it's constant, unnecessary paperwork. That seems counter productive. You've got vulnerable people so you make their lives more difficult. NDIS is supposed to make things easier not harder. 
Fingers crossed that isn't my experience, but I'll keep you all updated. 
Poor Chai's had a rough few weeks. He's been super excited to be back at school but all that emotion gets overwhelming, so there have been lots of meltdowns. They're tough for him, Eljay and I. We get through them as best we can. I'm hoping that things will ease up once he's had a bit more time to settle in.
That's all I have to complain about this week. I can't think straight at the moment, there was a storm last night, which woke Chai up and he couldn't get back to sleep for hours, so I've been awake since 2.15am. Send me all the coffee.
Have a wonderful weekend beauties. 

Tuesday, 16 February 2021

Kosas Sport Chemistry AHA Serum Deodorant

What a ridiculous name for a deodorant. I suppose they're trying to make it sound like skin care. Who wants a serum for their arm pits? I certainly don't. Kosas claim that this will brighten my arm pits, another thing I'm not interested in. Really, how often do you stand around with your arm above your head so your pits are visible? It's not something I do.
Here's a few more of their ridiculous claims about the Chemistry Deodorant:
The gentle exfoliating properties from shikmic, mandelic and lactic acids fade the discolouration that occurs in the underarms, leaving them brighter and firmer. Plus, the formula is bound by hyaluronic acid to ensure that your skin is hydrated and plumped when applying.
I can happily tell you that those claims are ridiculous. My pits are not brighter, firmer, hydrated or plumped. 
Kosas' ridiculous marketing really annoys me, it's almost enough to put me off the brand. I don't know anyone who wants brighter, firmer, hydrated and plump arm pits. Maybe some people do, who knows?
Stupid claims aside, this is a really lovely deodorant. It's bi-carb free so doesn't irritate my sensitive pits and keeps me odour free through my ultimate test, a sweaty gym session. 
I really like that the tube has a roller ball applicator, that's one of my bug bears with natural deodorants, I don't like having to dip my finger in and rub it under my arm. The roller ball is a much better option. 
The tube is soft so I can squeeze it to get more product out. I have the Serene Clean scent, which is very light and fresh, I can barely smell the fragrance.
At $24 it's on the higher end price wise, but the tube lasts months so I think it's worth it. 
I purchased my Chemistry AHA Serum Deodorant from Mecca.

Sunday, 14 February 2021

Thoughts of the week

1. Poor Victoria are back in lockdown. I really hope that it's only five days. My thoughts are with you all.
2. I've been following the gorilla glue girl saga on Instagram. The poor girl. I'm glad she finally got it sorted, it must have been so traumatic.
3. If you have $312 to spare you can get a vibrating rose quartz face roller. Heh. Check it out here.
4. Pink has released a song with her daughter Willow and I'm here for it.
5. Today the boys and I are making Valentine's Day surprises for Tiger (he's working today). We're going to make him something sweet (I'll let the boys choose) and a card.

Friday, 12 February 2021

FFS Friday - Really?

Hello beautiful people. How are you all? Did you have a good week?
This was my babies first week back at school. 
They've both had a bit of trouble settling in. Eljay is fine once he's there but struggles saying goodbye to me. He has two teachers and they're both lovely and nurturing so that's good. 
Chai has loved school but he struggles with his interpersonal relationship, he takes things way too seriously and gets upset over very minor issues. 
Wednesday he came home from school super upset. He managed to hold it together until he got in the car, then he let loose and yell cried the whole way home. It took me 1 1/2 hours to get him to stop crying and he was upset the rest of the evening. I felt like I deserved a medal after getting through that. 
Mrs B, how are you? I trust you are well. I have some Tiger stories for you. I swear he's either getting stranger in his old age or I'm getting less tolerant. Probably both. 
He's always been a fan of stupid questions but the last few weeks he's really ramped up his efforts. He's asking me really, really dumb, lazy questions. 
Here's a few examples:
Standing in the kitchen, from where he can see the pool "How's the pool looking?" to which I replied "Take a look."
Really, did he expect me to look at the pool and then tell him what it looked like when he could have just moved his head a little bit and seen for himself?
When I'm sitting in the lounge, still in my pj's and not having gone outside;
Tiger: What's it like outside?
Me: Do I look like a weatherman?

At the dinner table, looking at the meal I've placed in front of him "Are we having curry tonight?" to which I replied "No, I made it for the dog, can you give it to her please."

What's with that? What's the point of asking such stupid questions? Maybe he's just getting lazy as he gets older? He knows I'm not going to give a proper answer when he asks me something dumb, so why bother? Maybe he just likes the sound of his voice? I don't know. At least it gives me a chance to perfect my witty replies, I'm getting really good. 

Have a great weekend beautiful people.