Tuesday, 7 September 2021

Drama Llama

TW:Suicide.
 
Years ago I had a friend who loved drama, she thrived on it. She'd complain that she didn't like drama yet she was always in the thick of it, creating and stirring up drama.
I really don't like drama. I stay as far away from it as possible. Lately, it hasn't been possible.
 
In my family I'm the fixer. I'm the one everyone turns to when something has gone wrong. I have no idea why I have this role, but I assume it's because I stay calm in a crisis. Lately we've had crisis after crisis and I am so over it, I just want everything to stop and life to go back to normal, uneventful days.
 
It all started four weeks ago. I got sick and the boys got a virus. I was just getting better when I got the boy's virus. Tiger got it too.
 
Whilst we were all sick, Tiger chopped the top of his finger off. As we were all sick, the boys were home when it happened. Eljay took it in his stride but Chai went straight into panic mode, convinced Tiger was going to die. 
 
Tiger did not die, but we did spend 5 hours in the emergency department. They didn't numb his finger properly so when they started stitching it up he could feel it. When he told the Dr he could feel it the Dr didn't believe him and started to put another stitch in! (The stitches were through his finger nail so would have been extra painful) He only stopped when I got up and loudly said "He can feel it! Look at him, he's pale and sweating, he's in pain! He can feel it!"
They numbed it properly after that.  

When we all recovered from the virus, I got in my car to take the boys to school, turned the key and nothing. My battery was dead. Thankfully that was easy enough to sort out.

The next week my nephews had a fight and the youngest broke his hand, so I spent another five hours in the emergency department.
 
As if that wasn't fun enough, last week decided to really turn up the dial. Two of my male family members had an altercation. One ended up seriously injured in hospital and the other went on the run as the police were after him. 
 
That made the third week in a row that I spent time in the emergency department. The family member who was on the run was located, arrested and released on bail. 
The next day he tried to take his life. Thankfully he was unsuccessful.
 
We'd managed to keep the boys in the dark about the fight, they just knew there had been a fight, but unfortunately when I was on the phone to emergency services about the suicide attempt we were in the car so the boys heard everything.
 
Chai just isn't coping. His anxiety is sky high and he's really struggling. We've talked through it and he understands what happened and why, but he's still really anxious. We have a psych appointment next week so he'll be able to talk things through with someone who knows what they're doing.
 
This week we're mopping up the mess and I'm desperately hoping that this is the end of all the drama. I have a feeling it's not.
 
You know what else I've remembered? I really don't like talking on the phone. Phones are for texting not for phone calls. In the last week I've spend more time talking on the phone than I normally would in two months. I do not like it at all. 
 
I've always known they were amazing, but I have such a huge appreciation for our Police Service. They truly are wonderful people. Through this whole ordeal they have been so kind, considerate, empathetic and helpful. We really are lucky to have such a great group of people protecting us. 
 
In an attempt to cope with everything that's been going on I've done a bit of stress shopping, I'll share those hauls over the next few weeks when things quieten down and my brain starts functioning again. 
 
I hope all you beautiful people are doing okay. 

Sunday, 8 August 2021

Thoughts of the week

1. I'm not sure I have any thoughts this week. My brain has left the building.

2. Who's done their tax? I'm waiting for mine to be done, hopefully it'll be completed soon.

3. I plan to buy a new pair of leggings and the rest will be used to pay bills. Not very exciting but reducing debt is a good thing.

4. I keep getting emails from someone wanting me to write articles about guns. Why? What part of my blog would make someone think I know anything about guns? I'm tempted to fabricate something and see what they say.
 
5. I hope you're all coping okay.

Friday, 6 August 2021

FFS Friday - The bins

Regular readers will know that I've been on a housework strike for years now. I still do housework, but only the bare minimum (which is still a lot). 
 
I refuse to clean up mess left around the house by anyone other than me (and the pets, they can't clean up after themselves).
 
Last week I came up with a brilliant idea. I bought three tubs, put Tiger, Chai and Eljay's name on one. Any mess left by them is put into the tub. When I say any mess, I mean any mess, including rubbish.
 
So far it's working okay. The first night Tiger looked into his tub and asked why there was a pink bag in it. I told him it was because he left the bag lying around. He looked into the bag and told me that it was supposed to go into his car. I told him to put it into his car. He left it by the door, so I put it back into his tub. Eventually they'll get the hang of it. The pink bag is still in his tub.
 
So far the tubs are bringing me a lot of pleasure. My house is looking tidier and I haven't spent hours cleaning up messes that I didn't create.  
 
I'd hoped that they would take the things out of their tubs and put them where they're supposed to go, but that was expecting too much. For now I'm just happy that I'm not looking at their mess all the time. 
 
One day I will get the house sorted out so that it's not full of mess and clutter. It might not be until the day we move out, but it will happen. 
 
Happy Friday beautiful people. 
 
 

Sunday, 1 August 2021

Thoughts of the week

1. It's Eljay's birthday tomorrow. He's so excited. I love how excited kids get about birthday's.

2. My parents missed out on so many wonderful experiences by choosing not to celebrate birthdays and christmas.

3. Who shopped the Priceline and Sephora sales this week? I did. I bought our supergreen powder from Sephora and my sunscreen from Priceline.

4. It's census time. Our instructions arrived this week but I haven't completed the form yet.

5. This is the stormiest and wettest winter I remember. Whilst it's been lovely, having the boys stuck inside has not been so lovely

Saturday, 31 July 2021

Saturday Stories

I've been thinking about cellulite and chest hair lately. Tiger and I were getting ready for the day. I was in the bathroom putting on make-up and Tiger was in the shower. I was looking at him and thinking how unfair it is that men's bodies stay perfect whilst women get cellulite and spider veins.
 
That led to me thinking that my body is perfect, but society wants me to think it's not. There's nothing wrong with my body. It's perfectly normal. 

See, there's a whole (very lucrative) industry created around making women feel bad about cellulite.
Cellulite is normal for women.
 
Why isn't there a whole industry created to make men feel bad about chest hair? Or leg hair? Why are women's bodies shamed and policed when men's bodies aren't? Why are men who play sport allowed to wear shorts and tank tops and women are expected to wear bikini's?

Why do male gymnasts wear shorts and women wear leotards? It's such a ridiculous double standard. 

I'm so proud of all the women who are standing up and saying they've had enough. 
We deserve better and we'll make sure that happens.

Stay strong beautiful women. You're all perfect exactly as you are.



Friday, 30 July 2021

FFS Friday - The knowing

Every Friday Tiger has a short day so he picks the boys up from school.
Last Friday as I was saying goodbye to Eljay I reminded him that Daddy would pick him up from school. As I said it I thought "he won't be picking them up this afternoon" but I ignored that thought.
 
Tiger normally calls me when he finishes work. Last Friday he didn't. I was going to call him to make sure that he was picking them up, but again, I didn't follow my instincts so didn't call.   

Just after 3pm he called me. The first thing I said was "How are my boys?"
"I'm good thanks, how are you?"
"I'm fine, how are my boys?"
"What boys?"
"Our boys!"
"Oh fuck!"

Yep, Tiger forgot to pick the kids up from school. 
I was at home, 20 minutes away.

Tiger immediately went into a panic and wouldn't get off the phone so I told him to get off the phone so I could sort it out. I called the school as I was racing to put shoes on and got into the car.
 
Tiger rang me a few minutes later still in panic mode, trying to tell me what to do. FFS.
 
I was already on the way to school by then, I'd spoken to the school and knew that the boys would be safe. 

Still in panic mode, Tiger called and spoke to the boys, but instead of telling them the truth he told them he'd been held up at work. He didn't tell me that he'd lied, so when I got to school I told them the truth.

Thankfully the boys weren't too upset. Eljay was more upset than Chai, but I've promised them that it'll never happen again. 

I was really proud of how they handled it. Eljay waited outside his classroom until Chai got there, then together they went to the carpark. When Chai saw that Tiger's car wasn't there they both went in to the office. 

We've never discussed what to do if there's no-one there to pick them up (because I never thought it'd happen), so I'm really pleased they knew what to do. 

What I don't understand is how on earth Tiger managed to forget them? How is that possible? 
I think about them constantly. Maybe it's me and not him. Maybe other people don't constantly think about their kids? Who knows? I certainly don't. 

That was our excitement for last week. Tiger will never live it down.

Happy Friday beautiful people.

Sunday, 25 July 2021

Thoughts of the week

1. Hermes have a beauty line out and the prices are crazy. They want $100 for a lip tint, $105 for a lipstick and $110 for a blush. You have to be joking. They'd want to be amazing for that price but the reviews are bad, really really bad. 
 
2. There's a huge fuss on social media at the moment (and rightly so) as the Norweigan women's beach handball team has been fined $2,400 for wearing bike shorts instead of bikini bottoms. How ridiculous. The men wear shorts and a tank top, however the women are expected to wear bikini's.  
According to the uniform regulations the "athletes’ uniforms and accessories contribute to helping athletes increase their performance as well as remain coherent with the sportive and attractive image of the sport.”
 Right. Because bikini's help women play sport better. I don't think so. 

3. Sending hugs to anyone in lockdown at the moment.
 
4. Priceline's skincare, suncare and tanning sale starts on Tuesday. Perfect timing as I just ran out of my daily sunscreen.
 
5. Whilst sales are fun, remember it's not a bargain if you don't need it.


Friday, 23 July 2021

FFS Friday - One day

Hello Friday! How we've missed you!
 
So what's been going on? A large portion of Australia is currently in lockdown so I'd say not much has been going on at all. Here is WA we're fine so far, but you just never know when another snap lockdown will happen. 
 
I don't have a whole lot to complain about today. The boys went back to school so I've had four days of peace. I've started a new thing where the week that the boys go back to school I do what I want (which is usually stay at home). I don't go to the gym, I don't do much housework, I just spend quiet time collecting myself together again. Being an introvert I need the quiet time to gather my sanity again after the craziness of school holidays.
 
This week I had a massage, spent a little time helping out at the school, a little time doing housework, a day watching Virgin River and a bit of time tidying my room. It was peaceful and exactly what I needed after the school holidays.
 
Do you do that? Do you spend time caring for yourself? It's not always easy to do, especially when you have young children. I managed very little soul soothing when the boys were little, it's so much easier now that they go to school.
 
I think we need to look after ourselves now more than ever. The world isn't an easy place at the moment, there's so much stress and anxiety. Things will get better one day, but who knows when that day will be. Let's hope it's soon.
 

Thursday, 22 July 2021

Laneige Gummy Bear Lip Glowy Balm


Laneige have really nailed it with their lip products. The Lip Sleeping Mask is a cult favourite for a reason and the Lip Glowy Balms don't get as much hype as they deserve. 
 
Last year they released a Gummy Bear flavour in the US which I really wanted. I was delighted when it finally became available at Sephora in Australia a few weeks ago, so I ordered the Lip Glowy Balm one immediately. I wish I'd ordered the Lip Sleeping Mask at the same time.
 
I'd read that the scent was like grape bubblegum but thankfully that wasn't correct. The scent smells exactly like sweet gummy bear lollies.
 
The colour is a light purple but it applies clear on my lips. In my opinion Lip Glowy Balms are like a non sticky version of Juicy Tubes. 
They're hydrating, glossy and gorgeous. I like that they come in a squeeze tube because it means there aren't any hygiene issues.
 
The only complaint I have is that whilst they smell great, they don't have a flavour. Why would you make something smell so amazing and not taste good too? Makes no sense to me. 
 
I purchased my Lip Glowy Balm for $23 from Sephora. 
 
Have you tried Lip Glowy Balms?
 

Tuesday, 20 July 2021

Project Life Detox?

Lately I've been thinking about excess and the lessons that I'm teaching my kids. 
It's no secret that I have way too much make-up. Tiger also has way too much of almost everything. 
The boys have too many toys, Eljay has too many clothes. Our house is filled with too much stuff.
Everywhere I look I see excess.
 
I've been making a conscious effort to reduce our excess and am not having much success, mainly because I just haven't had the head space to put in a proper effort.
 
I've worried about what our total oversupply is teaching the boys, and my worries were confirmed last week when I had a chat with Eljay. He wanted to buy a new aftershave. He already has several and barely uses them, so I asked him why he wanted a new one and he said that he just wanted to have it.
 
We had a discussion about how having too many things isn't good, that I'm trying to get rid of all the things we have that we don't need and how everything we have cost us time and money. I also told him that when you don't waste money on things you don't need you don't have to work as much, and that everything he could see was the result of time spent at work, away from the family. 
 
Years ago, rather ambitiously, I started Project Life Detox. It failed miserably because I was home schooling the boys so didn't have the time or energy to sort out my life. 
I don't want to set myself up to fail again, however I'm thinking it's time for another Project Life Detox. 
 
I have no idea how successful I'll be, but a little bit of progress is better than no progress. If I put in a little bit of time every day, eventually I will have made a big difference. 
 
At this stage I don't even know where I'm going to start. I'm thinking I'll start with the areas that I spend the most time in, which is our main living area and bedroom. 
Once I've got one area sorted then I'll move on to the next area. 
It might take a long time but I will get there.